Communication Newlyweds

Communication and Newlyweds

So you are getting married? What a great way to accomplish a lifelong partnership with a with a person you love. Over the years, marriage has redefined its self as one of the most romantic gestures that individuals make to show their love. Marriage can be a great thing; however there can be stumbling blocks. When you love someone you never think about the challenges that can impact that relationship. It is important that you understand that problems will occur, but you have to be willing to work at those areas that may be a problem, so that in the future you can overcome them. When you are married some of the problems that may affect the relationship are money, trust, and communication. Being married for ten years …show more content…
Looking at yourself and reevaluating some of the problems you have with communicating can play a major factor when communicating with others. If you don’t think you have a problem then this will never work. Everyone has something that they can work on improving. In order for your marriage to be successful you must reflect on how to improve yourself. Being married has its ups and downs; however for a long time before marriage I had a problem with my weight. Of course no one knew this but me, my self-esteem was very low and being in a previous relationship where there was abuse didn’t help the matter. However, when meeting my husband I found that my self-esteem was creating conflict in the marriage. I would blame him for being attracted to other women or not being happy with my weight. This created conflict in my marriage my husband became very frustrated and I thought at one point it would lead to divorce. So I started analyzing myself and some things that I could change to improve my confidence. I started losing weight by eating better and exercising. As time went on I realized that because I was overweight it was affecting our marriage. The self is a critical component in communication. It affects the way you interact with other people and the way they interact with you. Intrapersonal communication occurs when we communicate with ourselves, via our thoughts, or internal dialogue. Your self-concept is a collection of the traits and characteristics you use to describe yourself. Most researchers believe that who you think you are is a complex mix of how you see yourself; how others see you; what parents, teachers, and peers have told you about yourself; and what your society or culture tells you that you should be (Bevan & Sole, 2014). However, one way to improve your communication is to be competent. Being competent means balancing your effectiveness