Communicating is a big part of people’s lives. Communication and conversation happens every day to everyone. People have conversations with their friends, their partner, their bosses, or even strangers. In today’s society, everybody is constantly talking whether it is online, over the phone, or in person; conversations are happening. During a conversation there is a communicator and a listener. Though the communicator is relaying all the information, the listener is important because they are the one to receive the information. There are two different types of listening, listening and non-listening. There are several different response styles the listener can answer with. I have not noticed the way I listened or responded until this assignment.
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Silent listening was when I just listen to the person and did not interrupt, I usually did this when I was actively listening. Pseudo listening was when I was pretending to listen; I usually did this when I was non-listening. I liked to silent listened because it helped me understand the conversation better. If I silent listened, then the person I was having a conversation with did not get interrupted and they were able to get their train of thought out in one go. I tended to pseudo listen when somebody was telling me an unexciting or repetitive story. But I also pseudo listened when someone was ranting to me. For example, when the boarder from my barn called me and was ranting about how her horse was not getting the treatment that she wanted. I pseudo listened then because she was complaining about something I had no control over, but also over something I heard her complain about …show more content…
When I silent listen, it can easily be mistaken as me not listening since I am not making any notations that I am hearing what the other person is saying. Also by recording my conversations, I noticed that I do a lot of pseudo listening. Pseudo listening is terrible and I hate that I do it so much. Some of the time when I pseudo listened, the other person noticed that I was not listening. This could have led to some feelings being hurt. I do not want the person I am talking to feel unimportant, which is what I think my pseudo listening does to them. I would wish to change how I actively listen. I think I should start nodding my head more or making affirming sounds so the person I am talking with knows that I am listening and comprehending what they are saying. Also, I need to work on when to recognize when I am pseudo listening. If I notice that I am pseudo listening then I can change my response style so I am more engaged in listening. When I am having a conversation with someone and they are listening to what I have to say then I need to be more considerate and listen to what they have to say instead of pseudo
Silent listening was when I just listen to the person and did not interrupt, I usually did this when I was actively listening. Pseudo listening was when I was pretending to listen; I usually did this when I was non-listening. I liked to silent listened because it helped me understand the conversation better. If I silent listened, then the person I was having a conversation with did not get interrupted and they were able to get their train of thought out in one go. I tended to pseudo listen when somebody was telling me an unexciting or repetitive story. But I also pseudo listened when someone was ranting to me. For example, when the boarder from my barn called me and was ranting about how her horse was not getting the treatment that she wanted. I pseudo listened then because she was complaining about something I had no control over, but also over something I heard her complain about …show more content…
When I silent listen, it can easily be mistaken as me not listening since I am not making any notations that I am hearing what the other person is saying. Also by recording my conversations, I noticed that I do a lot of pseudo listening. Pseudo listening is terrible and I hate that I do it so much. Some of the time when I pseudo listened, the other person noticed that I was not listening. This could have led to some feelings being hurt. I do not want the person I am talking to feel unimportant, which is what I think my pseudo listening does to them. I would wish to change how I actively listen. I think I should start nodding my head more or making affirming sounds so the person I am talking with knows that I am listening and comprehending what they are saying. Also, I need to work on when to recognize when I am pseudo listening. If I notice that I am pseudo listening then I can change my response style so I am more engaged in listening. When I am having a conversation with someone and they are listening to what I have to say then I need to be more considerate and listen to what they have to say instead of pseudo