The society today is quick to warn parents about divorce and the negative implications of divorce for children both short term and long term. However no body tends to be concerned with the influence of marital conflict to the child’s wellbeing or so it seems. Therefore given the negative connotations attached to the child with the parents being divorced, is the child in a significantly better environment just because the parents are not divorced even if the family environment is conflict ridden? Are the child’s life outcomes and the child’s wellbeing better in a troubled marriage as opposed to outcomes with the parent being divorced?
According to Joan Kelly …show more content…
In high conflict marriages, the children tend to model parents behaviours, and fail to learn appropriate social skills and psychological effects. Study notes that young children exposed to violent or repetitive severe conflict experiences disturbances in affective regulation or emotional arousals (Kelly, 2000). With repeated exposure to severe conflict, there is negative cumulative effect on the psychological stress system that creates difficulties in emotional responses. It is also noted in this review that research indicate parents in intense marital conflict tend to be distant and less warm and empathetic with their children using more quilt or anxiety inducing disciplinary techniques which are associated poorer social awareness and social withdrawal in the child. Childs interaction with the father could also suffer as mothers tend to act as gatekeeper in during and post marriage (Kelly, 2000). Therefore mother attitude effects fathers parenting style than fathers own attitude. In high conflict marriages an indirect effect vial less father involvement but also due to more negative nitration and feelings toward the father. Repeated exposure to violence in parents’ marriage is predictive of PTSD in children particularly combines with poor socio-economic status (Kelly, 2000). There is also a compounding effect of marital violence that result in child abuse and sibling violence. Marital violence with respect to from non-violent high conflict marriages or parental substance abuse was more associates with low satisfaction, poor self-esteem, less closeness to the mother and more in young adults. Parental marital violence also increased the odds of relationship violence in the children as well. (Kelly,