Domestic Violence: Why Do Victims Just Leave?

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Nineteen minutes. Roughly the same time it takes one to get ready in the morning or finish reading a couple paragraphs in an essay. Nineteen minutes is how often domestic violence happens to a person . One may ask “why don’t the victims just leave?” Often it is not that simple, however. Victims of domestic violence should always leave their situations, but often will not or are unable to. The goal of this essay is to address the reasons surrounding why victims of domestic violence should leave their situation, but this essay will also focus on why victims often do not leave.
Victims should leave their situations as the longer they stay in those relationships, the more psychological, physical and emotional damage they will endure. There are
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It seems easy for one to tell the victim to leave, however, no one knows the specific circumstances the victim is going through or what is at stake for them. Many abusers isolate the victim from their friends and family to control them and make the abuser the victim’s only support system. The victim may feel like they have no one to turn to and nowhere to go. In addition, victims might not know what help is available to them in their community. That’s why helping victims of domestic violence is so important as most victims don’t know that help is out there. There are resources such as 24/7 help lines, websites, and non-profit organizations that are specifically designed to help victims of domestic violence. Those that say “just leave” have to help the victim see the ways of getting help and support needed from the people willing to help. Sometimes the victims have to help themselves because nobody else will help them. One example, as seen below, describes one victims experience with domestic violence, how he managed to cope, and what helped him. In addition, he provides advice for anyone going through a violent relationship as seen in domestic violence …show more content…
If the violation is also an assault, or if the abuser has two or more previous convictions for violating a protective order in the past ten years, then the crime is a class 6 felony, punishable by up to two years’ imprisonment and a fine of up to $4,000. Defined in S.D. Codified Laws (22-6-1, 22-6-2.) Assaults that cause serious injury, and those committed by abusers with previous assault cases, are punished using harsher sentences, including up to 15 years’ imprisonment and a fine of up to $30,000 in the most serious cases. Defined in S.D Codified Laws (22-18-1, 22-18-1.1, 25-10-13.) Unfortunately, thirty-one percent of convicted abusers were arrested again within a year of being released according to the Center for Court Innovation, and forty-four percent were arrested again within two years. (Gretchen Shaw, NCADV associate director.) It is a sad statistic, but it is fact that most individuals who were convicted of domestic violence will abuse again. This only proves my point that victims should leave their abusive relationship.
In Conclusion victims have many reasons for staying in their abusive relationship. It is time to put an end to domestic violence, it is time to stop turning a blind eye, and it is time to help the victims of domestic violence. Helping the victims of domestic violence is anyone’s goal when they are made aware that domestic violence

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