Protecting a Child From Overprotection
As kids grow up, most of the behaviors they develop and learn come from their family members, friends, but also parents. The way that the child is treated by his/her parents usually has a correlation with the child’s behaviors. Some kids happen to have a very distant relationship with their parent(s), as their parent(s) might not choose to be involved in the child’s life. On the completely other side of the spectrum, lay kids with parents who stick around for every second of the child’s life. These parents tend to worry about the smallest things. However, there seems to be a difficulty trying to find the perfect balance between the two in a child’s life. Parents should be present without being over involved, …show more content…
A teen’s brain matures unproportionally meaning, “When teens make choices in emotionally charged situations, those choices are often more weighted in feelings (the mature limbic system) over logic (the not-yet-mature prefrontal cortex)”(“Teens” 2). In these situations, parents should be present in the child’s life in order to guide them back to the right path of learning, but at the same time allow the child to take the way back and be able to learn. A parent should explain to the child that the decision they are making is probably because of what they are feeling, rather than the right and moral decision that is logical. A child who does not have a parent to support a decision, might have a hard time realizing what the next step to improvement is. For instance, if a child is not sure whether returning something they borrowed is right or wrong, receiving no opinion from an adult, the child will not know and assume it is alright to not return it. These types of things are taught through the behaviors and the involvement of the parents. On the other hand, if the child chooses to neglect the judgement of the adult that persisted these values, it will allow the child to learn from the consequences.
In agreement with this, parents should be involved in a child’s life during their young and teen years. Children with parents who do not participate in the child’s life can learn about life’s problems, but without …show more content…
A further belief is, “When the student goes off to college, overparenting need not stop” (Acocella 3). Children who do experience overparenting typically use parents to their advantage, especially for school situations and assignments. Some are able to go through their elementary and high school life depending on their parents to do their assignments. When the parents do this, they believe they are helping their child by providing them with a good grade. Jessica Lahey, a teacher, explains she has experienced a parent writing her student’s essay. The student was to be punished for plagiarism, but the mother admitted, “No, I mean she didn't do it. I did. I wrote her paper.” (Qtd. in Lacey 1). Despite this, students cannot depend on their parents to also write their assignments throughout college. Students like those usually do not even have the motivation to pursue onto college as they are not used to challenges. These students also have a higher risk of experiencing greater anxiety issues since they are not used to pressures of society and the world around them. The American Academy of Pediatrics agrees, "For some children, this hurried lifestyle is a source of stress and anxiety and may even contribute to depression"(Qtd. in Gibbs
As kids grow up, most of the behaviors they develop and learn come from their family members, friends, but also parents. The way that the child is treated by his/her parents usually has a correlation with the child’s behaviors. Some kids happen to have a very distant relationship with their parent(s), as their parent(s) might not choose to be involved in the child’s life. On the completely other side of the spectrum, lay kids with parents who stick around for every second of the child’s life. These parents tend to worry about the smallest things. However, there seems to be a difficulty trying to find the perfect balance between the two in a child’s life. Parents should be present without being over involved, …show more content…
A teen’s brain matures unproportionally meaning, “When teens make choices in emotionally charged situations, those choices are often more weighted in feelings (the mature limbic system) over logic (the not-yet-mature prefrontal cortex)”(“Teens” 2). In these situations, parents should be present in the child’s life in order to guide them back to the right path of learning, but at the same time allow the child to take the way back and be able to learn. A parent should explain to the child that the decision they are making is probably because of what they are feeling, rather than the right and moral decision that is logical. A child who does not have a parent to support a decision, might have a hard time realizing what the next step to improvement is. For instance, if a child is not sure whether returning something they borrowed is right or wrong, receiving no opinion from an adult, the child will not know and assume it is alright to not return it. These types of things are taught through the behaviors and the involvement of the parents. On the other hand, if the child chooses to neglect the judgement of the adult that persisted these values, it will allow the child to learn from the consequences.
In agreement with this, parents should be involved in a child’s life during their young and teen years. Children with parents who do not participate in the child’s life can learn about life’s problems, but without …show more content…
A further belief is, “When the student goes off to college, overparenting need not stop” (Acocella 3). Children who do experience overparenting typically use parents to their advantage, especially for school situations and assignments. Some are able to go through their elementary and high school life depending on their parents to do their assignments. When the parents do this, they believe they are helping their child by providing them with a good grade. Jessica Lahey, a teacher, explains she has experienced a parent writing her student’s essay. The student was to be punished for plagiarism, but the mother admitted, “No, I mean she didn't do it. I did. I wrote her paper.” (Qtd. in Lacey 1). Despite this, students cannot depend on their parents to also write their assignments throughout college. Students like those usually do not even have the motivation to pursue onto college as they are not used to challenges. These students also have a higher risk of experiencing greater anxiety issues since they are not used to pressures of society and the world around them. The American Academy of Pediatrics agrees, "For some children, this hurried lifestyle is a source of stress and anxiety and may even contribute to depression"(Qtd. in Gibbs