Characteristics Of Becoming Me

Becoming Me There are many different trait that tend to make a person who they are. A trait is the relatively stable internal based characteristics that describe a person (Griggs, Chapter 8, page 336). There are many traits that could be used to describe myself, some good and there are some that are bad. Throughout my life there have been many influences that help me become the man I am today, and the man I hope to be in the future. Not all influences are positive, there are some that can be negative as well. It’s not the entirely the influences that help me as much as it is what I take from them; listening to my influences stories, asking them questions, picking their brain on the simplest matters of life. That’s what growth is learning from …show more content…
“Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is an arrangement of the innate needs that motivate behavior (LN, Personality Theory). I think it took till now in my life for me to understand what it means to have self-actualization. I now know that I need to do to live up to the man I want to become. I need to surround myself with positive people that lift me up instead of putting me down. According to Griggs page 331, Carl Rodgers developed the concept of unconditional positive regard which is the acceptance and approval without conditions. I know that I need to be able to accept everyone until they give me a reason not to accept them anymore. The need that is key to keep me going and upright is the need be loved and belongingness. I can say otherwise to people in public but deep down everyone needs to be loved and feel like they belong and matter. The main need that makes me feel loved and belonged is safety. The feeling of safety and comfort from family or friends is what it means to be loved. The basic of basic of needs is the physiological need, which is the need to satisfy hunger and thirst. I would psychically and mentally not be able to function without food and water in my system (Griggs, Chapter 8, page 329). These basic needs are what it takes to build me up, but my influences are what have made me the person I am …show more content…
My biggest influence is my mom. She is credited with teaching me everything I know. The ability to go out and be my own person is credited to her. She taught me how to do the right thing even when it’s hard. I think my mom’s parenting skills are a mixture of Authoritative parenting and permissive parenting. She was demanding with certain things but would also let us do as we pleased as we got older (Griggs 7, Page 301). Sadly even at the age of nineteen I still have some rules that I need to follow. Another influence is my Uncle Kevin. Kevin taught me more streets smarts than anyone else I know. Kevin is only eleven years older than me, he is a little more relatable with my generation than my mom happens to be. I look up to Kevin as my older brother; I go to him for advice on girls, life, and my future. Positive influences are all my coaches I’ve ever had in my life. They have all taught me to respect the game and be a good sport. They have not only helped me grow as an athlete but also as a person. A negative and positive influence is my dad. My dad has more of an authoritarian parenting style. My dad demanded a lot from me and made sure I did it with unquestioned obedience (Griggs 7, Page 301). My dad taught me how to be a man and stick up for myself. The negative side of him is the fact that he struggles with alcoholism and bipolar disorder. My dad is a completely different