Determining the source of your jealousy
There are few people on earth who can lay claim to immunity from the emotional and negative causes or effects of jealousy. Jealousy is a poison; a feeling that often feeds on other feelings such as insecurity and low self-esteem. When you are overcome with jealousy it speaks more about who you are and how you feel about yourself – your sense of security or insecurity – than it speaks about the actions of your partner or someone else, whether based on fear or fact.
There are several reasons why you might have found yourself enveloped by feelings of jealousy and some of these could include insecurity, ill-treatment by a loved one, perceived threat from a third party or just from a general sense of vulnerability …show more content…
It is usually present in those who have gone through some form of rejection in the past resulting in feeling a lack of self-worth. If you do not think that you deserve love and fidelity, the tendency would be to question every expression of those until you work yourself into a jealous frenzy. If you are married and each time you see your wife or husband speak to and laugh with another man or woman and you experience unreasonable jealousy, then you need to pause and think about why you are feeling the way you do. For people with a low self-image, the feeling is often of not being worth their partner’s love and conjectures that maybe the other person they are laughing with actually does deserve them …show more content…
Do not be afraid to think back – to your childhood if need be – and figure out if there are any lingering feelings of rejection, abandonment and insecurity that might cause feelings of jealousy in you. Because often times it may have to do with something traced back to childhood days. As children or as teenagers some people did not feel loved or valued. The seed of insecurity or lack of self-esteem may have been sown way back early into childhood, and carried over into adulthood relationships. The result is a constant fear or the expectation that loved ones or friends to disappoint or let you down or even abuse you. Some people may find it impossible to express their feelings or concerns to anyone. It may push them to choosing partners who avoid
There are few people on earth who can lay claim to immunity from the emotional and negative causes or effects of jealousy. Jealousy is a poison; a feeling that often feeds on other feelings such as insecurity and low self-esteem. When you are overcome with jealousy it speaks more about who you are and how you feel about yourself – your sense of security or insecurity – than it speaks about the actions of your partner or someone else, whether based on fear or fact.
There are several reasons why you might have found yourself enveloped by feelings of jealousy and some of these could include insecurity, ill-treatment by a loved one, perceived threat from a third party or just from a general sense of vulnerability …show more content…
It is usually present in those who have gone through some form of rejection in the past resulting in feeling a lack of self-worth. If you do not think that you deserve love and fidelity, the tendency would be to question every expression of those until you work yourself into a jealous frenzy. If you are married and each time you see your wife or husband speak to and laugh with another man or woman and you experience unreasonable jealousy, then you need to pause and think about why you are feeling the way you do. For people with a low self-image, the feeling is often of not being worth their partner’s love and conjectures that maybe the other person they are laughing with actually does deserve them …show more content…
Do not be afraid to think back – to your childhood if need be – and figure out if there are any lingering feelings of rejection, abandonment and insecurity that might cause feelings of jealousy in you. Because often times it may have to do with something traced back to childhood days. As children or as teenagers some people did not feel loved or valued. The seed of insecurity or lack of self-esteem may have been sown way back early into childhood, and carried over into adulthood relationships. The result is a constant fear or the expectation that loved ones or friends to disappoint or let you down or even abuse you. Some people may find it impossible to express their feelings or concerns to anyone. It may push them to choosing partners who avoid