The saying “you can catch more flies with honey” is my motto. I observed too many times that acting aggressively creates more problems than it solves. I usually try to avoid conflict, however, it is not always possible. I had a situation with one of my children, who was addicted to drugs and wanted sobriety desperately. Yet he did not take any steps toward this goal. I would give him suggestions and resources and he continued to ignore them. I could have acted aggressively and confronted him about all the resources I found and yet he did not follow through with them, I could have tried to scare him into getting help. Although I was passive for a while, I then chose to act assertively, because I wanted to keep a good relationship with
