Essay 3: Stay-at-home Dads
Generally, women are considered to be more responsible for taking care housework, such as cleaning, taking care of children and cooking. The couples who try to split the work have still similar patterns of gendered distribution of housework. When the housework is split, men are generally assigned to the yardwork, such as, mowing the lawn, and doing repair work. Women are more expected to do the cleaning and cooking. According to the article” At-Home Fathers and Breadwinning Mothers: Variations in Constructing Work and Family Lives” by Caryn Medved and William Rawlins, “Even when market hours are fairly equal, wives still do more housework than their husbands” (202). This shows that women are almost always expected …show more content…
The first stance is called “reversing”. “Reversing” stance refers to switching the role of father and mother without any further consideration. They are not adopting the new identity. For example, if a women from the couple finds out that her job pay way more than her husband, then she might considering working outside the house, and husband takes the responsibility of doing house-work and child care. The second stance is termed as “conflicting” stance. Couples in “conflicting” stance might not like what they are doing. They know that they have to do their job anyway because of the circumstances. The third stance is “collaborating” which emphasizes on both accepting and ignoring conventional gender rules that are norms in the society. In the “collaborating” stance, a stay-at-home dad might believe that men should be money provider but he takes the job of care-provider to work with his family as a team. The “collaborating” stance has less conflict than the “conflicting” stance. The fourth stance is “improvising”, in this stance the couple has totally denied the convention gender rules. They take action and responsibility based on their personal preferences, and abilities. The couples in this stance do not accept the conventional gender rules. The fifth stance is termed as “sharing”, sharing in consists both co-providing and …show more content…
I thinking “improvising” stance is better than “reversing”, “conflicting”, and “collaborating”, because in the improvising stance the couple is doing their job based on what they believe and they have forgotten the conventional gender rules. The work of couples who practice the “improvising” stance sounds less stressful because seems like they enjoy what they are doing. Also, the “sharing” stance is good because couples in this stance are working more toward gender equality and the split the work to support each other without considering gender conventional rules. Overall, if the couples consider accepting the improvising and sharing stances, the stay-at-home dads might experience less social pressure in doing their
Generally, women are considered to be more responsible for taking care housework, such as cleaning, taking care of children and cooking. The couples who try to split the work have still similar patterns of gendered distribution of housework. When the housework is split, men are generally assigned to the yardwork, such as, mowing the lawn, and doing repair work. Women are more expected to do the cleaning and cooking. According to the article” At-Home Fathers and Breadwinning Mothers: Variations in Constructing Work and Family Lives” by Caryn Medved and William Rawlins, “Even when market hours are fairly equal, wives still do more housework than their husbands” (202). This shows that women are almost always expected …show more content…
The first stance is called “reversing”. “Reversing” stance refers to switching the role of father and mother without any further consideration. They are not adopting the new identity. For example, if a women from the couple finds out that her job pay way more than her husband, then she might considering working outside the house, and husband takes the responsibility of doing house-work and child care. The second stance is termed as “conflicting” stance. Couples in “conflicting” stance might not like what they are doing. They know that they have to do their job anyway because of the circumstances. The third stance is “collaborating” which emphasizes on both accepting and ignoring conventional gender rules that are norms in the society. In the “collaborating” stance, a stay-at-home dad might believe that men should be money provider but he takes the job of care-provider to work with his family as a team. The “collaborating” stance has less conflict than the “conflicting” stance. The fourth stance is “improvising”, in this stance the couple has totally denied the convention gender rules. They take action and responsibility based on their personal preferences, and abilities. The couples in this stance do not accept the conventional gender rules. The fifth stance is termed as “sharing”, sharing in consists both co-providing and …show more content…
I thinking “improvising” stance is better than “reversing”, “conflicting”, and “collaborating”, because in the improvising stance the couple is doing their job based on what they believe and they have forgotten the conventional gender rules. The work of couples who practice the “improvising” stance sounds less stressful because seems like they enjoy what they are doing. Also, the “sharing” stance is good because couples in this stance are working more toward gender equality and the split the work to support each other without considering gender conventional rules. Overall, if the couples consider accepting the improvising and sharing stances, the stay-at-home dads might experience less social pressure in doing their