AN ANALYSIS OF MY RESPONSE TO THE CASE STUDY AND WHAT MY RESPONSE REVEALS ABOUT MY PERSONAL VALUES:
In this case study, there are many complex spiritual, social, familial and personal issues at play. There is no easy answer to this situation. Making simplistic statements like the Bible says “divorce is wrong” or “you can’t stay in a marriage if your husband is going to kill you, so leave him”, isn’t going to solve the problem or bring any restoration and comfort to the broke-hearted.
On many levels, I can relate to Kerina. I, too, am married and although my husband doesn’t physically abuse me, because of our brokenness we verbally, emotionally and spiritually abuse one another from time to time. Abuse of any kind is damaging to the human …show more content…
WHAT HAS SHAPED THESE VALUES?
The values and beliefs that I hold have been shaped through: my personal experiences (past and present), my upbringing, and my own experiences of being married, my local church, my friends in Christ and the wider church community that exists.
I hold a particularly high regard for marriage and I have always desired to have the marriage my parents never had. This high regard for marriage was born through the destructive and abusive marriage that my parents have had. My parents aren’t divorced, but they are desperately unhappy within themselves and within their marriage. Ironically, even though I value marriage and desire to have a good, godly marriage, I can’t seem to escape my own socialisation and I seem to be responding in the same way my parents have responded in their marriage. Although I am aware of my destructive patterns of behaviour, I feel powerless to change what is so ingrained in my behaviour. I am prone to abusive responses! So while I can relate to Kerina, because of the way she has been treated by her community and because of the abuse she has received, I can also relate to her husband. I’ll even go as far as to say we can all relate to both Kerina and her husband. We have all been both the victim and the perpetrator. We have all received abuse and become the abuser. We are all guilty! Because I realise that I too am capable of abuse I draw the conclusion that their marriage should be given a fair chance; in that the husband needs to be addressed by the church and they should provide the help he needs for his
In this case study, there are many complex spiritual, social, familial and personal issues at play. There is no easy answer to this situation. Making simplistic statements like the Bible says “divorce is wrong” or “you can’t stay in a marriage if your husband is going to kill you, so leave him”, isn’t going to solve the problem or bring any restoration and comfort to the broke-hearted.
On many levels, I can relate to Kerina. I, too, am married and although my husband doesn’t physically abuse me, because of our brokenness we verbally, emotionally and spiritually abuse one another from time to time. Abuse of any kind is damaging to the human …show more content…
WHAT HAS SHAPED THESE VALUES?
The values and beliefs that I hold have been shaped through: my personal experiences (past and present), my upbringing, and my own experiences of being married, my local church, my friends in Christ and the wider church community that exists.
I hold a particularly high regard for marriage and I have always desired to have the marriage my parents never had. This high regard for marriage was born through the destructive and abusive marriage that my parents have had. My parents aren’t divorced, but they are desperately unhappy within themselves and within their marriage. Ironically, even though I value marriage and desire to have a good, godly marriage, I can’t seem to escape my own socialisation and I seem to be responding in the same way my parents have responded in their marriage. Although I am aware of my destructive patterns of behaviour, I feel powerless to change what is so ingrained in my behaviour. I am prone to abusive responses! So while I can relate to Kerina, because of the way she has been treated by her community and because of the abuse she has received, I can also relate to her husband. I’ll even go as far as to say we can all relate to both Kerina and her husband. We have all been both the victim and the perpetrator. We have all received abuse and become the abuser. We are all guilty! Because I realise that I too am capable of abuse I draw the conclusion that their marriage should be given a fair chance; in that the husband needs to be addressed by the church and they should provide the help he needs for his