Scenario A- Hey i 'm Dolly i 'm 17 and has recently started a sexual relationship with my boyfriend Johnny who is 2 years older. I know that he has had sex with a couple of girls in the past and I would like him to get checked for STIs to make sure that everything 's safe. I also want to feel confident and secure in my relationship with Johnny and hope that we can communicate effectively about anything that is worrying the us.
Hey Dolly,a relevant strategy for your situation is that you need to understand you have a right in this relationship to express your feelings freely and honestly by talking to Johnny face to face and be totally honest and upfront with him. It is his responsibility to respect your feeling and your honesty and respond …show more content…
A way of doing this is to be speak clearly with her and preferably face to face conversation so you are able to read her body language and see if she is feeling under pressure or uncomfortable. When speaking to Angie about this situation you need to make sure you don 't speak to fast or too slow because this may change they way she takes the situation, eg if you speak to fast it may give her the vibe that you 're nervous or anxious about this but also if you are speaking too slow she may think you 're not sure about it. A good way to bring up this topic is maybe saying ‘Hey Angie so we have been together for a long time now, and i was wondering if it is time to have sex together, i feel i am ready but i am not wanting you to feel pressured into having it if you don 't feel you are ready.’ this is just one of many ways to bring it up, but the most important thing to do is to speak at the same pace you normally do. Another way of assertive communication is your body language, you need to be aware of the way you express your body because this may change the messages that you are sending to her, try make your expressions match what you 're saying such as use hand expressions that are appropriate to what you are
Hey Dolly,a relevant strategy for your situation is that you need to understand you have a right in this relationship to express your feelings freely and honestly by talking to Johnny face to face and be totally honest and upfront with him. It is his responsibility to respect your feeling and your honesty and respond …show more content…
A way of doing this is to be speak clearly with her and preferably face to face conversation so you are able to read her body language and see if she is feeling under pressure or uncomfortable. When speaking to Angie about this situation you need to make sure you don 't speak to fast or too slow because this may change they way she takes the situation, eg if you speak to fast it may give her the vibe that you 're nervous or anxious about this but also if you are speaking too slow she may think you 're not sure about it. A good way to bring up this topic is maybe saying ‘Hey Angie so we have been together for a long time now, and i was wondering if it is time to have sex together, i feel i am ready but i am not wanting you to feel pressured into having it if you don 't feel you are ready.’ this is just one of many ways to bring it up, but the most important thing to do is to speak at the same pace you normally do. Another way of assertive communication is your body language, you need to be aware of the way you express your body because this may change the messages that you are sending to her, try make your expressions match what you 're saying such as use hand expressions that are appropriate to what you are