Bissell (2012) explains that difficult people play games us. It is a game of human chess that starts with either leaning in or leaning out. Bissell believes bullying is a good example of leaning in/out and the behavior starts in childhood. Leaning back is the method that places people in the position to as Bissell teaches to solve the other’s problem. Bullies sometimes can be loud especially in middle school. Leaning in is basically being obnoxiously rude. One of the most well defined definitions of bullying is supplied by Dan Owleus who equates real bullying to an unequal amount of power between different parties. Goodwin (2011) states:
Frankly bullying comes naturally to many children. Most of us can probably remember being bullied and (with a cringe) times when we picked on others when we were in school. We had to unlearn the bad behaviors and learn how to be nice and stick up for others. It's not an easy lesson -- indeed, as TV reality …show more content…
18). As documented by Bissell, dealing with difficult people causes physical aliments at times. At an in-service called Emotional Needs of Adolescents, Dr. Vespie, licensed therapist and preacher ( personal communication, August 6, 2012) shared relaxation techniques that ranged from slumping shoulders, to deep breathes as methods to deal with stress in the classroom brought on by difficult people in theory that demonstrate Bissell’s Lean in and Out theory. He supplied an example of when he had to employ those techniques and lean toward a bully. At the time his class was going well with all students working and engaged until one girl figuratively leaned in and spoke, “It is so cold in here, my nipples are hard.” Dr. Vespie did not lean away, but rather leaned in and handled the situation appropriately by not backing down or colluding as Bissell demonstrated with the story involving the mother and screaming
Frankly bullying comes naturally to many children. Most of us can probably remember being bullied and (with a cringe) times when we picked on others when we were in school. We had to unlearn the bad behaviors and learn how to be nice and stick up for others. It's not an easy lesson -- indeed, as TV reality …show more content…
18). As documented by Bissell, dealing with difficult people causes physical aliments at times. At an in-service called Emotional Needs of Adolescents, Dr. Vespie, licensed therapist and preacher ( personal communication, August 6, 2012) shared relaxation techniques that ranged from slumping shoulders, to deep breathes as methods to deal with stress in the classroom brought on by difficult people in theory that demonstrate Bissell’s Lean in and Out theory. He supplied an example of when he had to employ those techniques and lean toward a bully. At the time his class was going well with all students working and engaged until one girl figuratively leaned in and spoke, “It is so cold in here, my nipples are hard.” Dr. Vespie did not lean away, but rather leaned in and handled the situation appropriately by not backing down or colluding as Bissell demonstrated with the story involving the mother and screaming