Essay on Book Report on Reviving Ophelia by Dr. Pipher

1487 Words Jun 2nd, 2011 6 Pages
Reviving Ophelia Dr. Pipher remembers her cousin Polly as a young girl. She describes her as energy in motion. A tomboy, Polly dances, plays sports with the neighborhood boys, and rides horses.
Once Polly enters adolescence, however, other children begin teasing her about her tomboyish ways and insist that she be more ladylike. The boys exclude her from their activities, and the girls isolate her because she is different. Polly becomes confused and withdrawn.
Later, Polly begins wearing stylish clothes and trying harder to fit in. She again becomes accepted and popular. Dr. Pipher feels that she is the only one saddened by Polly's transformation from force of nature to submissive follower. Dr. Pipher discusses Freud's
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Dr. Pipher treats many adult women who never recover from the pain that they experience during adolescence. Some of these women completely lose touch with their own needs. They grow into angry adults that feel betrayed. They believe that they are following all of the rules, but they are not experiencing the perfect life that they want.
Parents blame their daughters' problems on themselves, but Dr. Pipher believes that
American culture is to blame. She believes that some of the families that she sees in therapy are not actually dysfunctional. The culture in which they live is dysfunctional. Parents share their values and ideals with their daughters, but the mainstream media sends them an entirely different message. Children may blame their parents for their unhappiness during adolescence.
They still expect their parents to protect and care for them, even as they push them away. They are not yet mature enough to understand that society is to blame.
Dr. Pipher reveals her own frustration in trying to help girls. She recalls that psychology professors are mostly men who do not study girls. She finds that some common themes, including preoccupation with weight, fear of rejection, and the need for perfection, appear to be rooted in cultural ideals rather than each girl's individual personality. Adolescent girls are faced with

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