Beyoncé Knowles Flawless

I find that there are many times when I am being incongruent with who I should be and who I am. Beyoncé Knowles has a song titled Flawless and in it, the lyrics speak of the incongruency society has for woman by stating: “We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, ‘you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten man’ […] we raise girls to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments, but for the attention of men”. Women are perceived as bitches and should not be assertive is what I believe her song lyrics address a prominent phenomenon in our society. I identify with this struggle as well. Growing up, my grandmother taught me and her sisters to sit with my legs crossed and remain silent. As a child, adults taught to speak with spoken to and not to interrupt others. This did not mesh with my personality to speak up against injustices. As a part of the hashtag sorry not sorry campaign, I am constantly struggling with wanting to be assertive, but not appear as an improper woman. I worked as a campaign-organizing fellow, where I recruited and led a team to assist in grassroots campaigning. Those surrounding me called many names that equated to me being aggressive. I know how to lead a team and be …show more content…
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