At the age of 17, Betsy met John Ross at a local upholstery that her father had assigned to her after completing school. They quickly fell in love. John Ross was an Anglican, and marrying outside one's religion was strictly off limits. Betsy and John Ross eloped November 1772. Sadly in 1776, John Ross was mortally wounded in an explosion while guarding an ammunition cache.
In 1776, Betsy had a fateful meeting with the committee of George Washington, George Ross, and Robert Morris. It led