Choosing The Risk Of Having An Only Child

The only child feels more committed to taking care of parents and giving them everything they need, there is no one to share the joy and concerns of parents. Many breasts without a partner place the only child as the substitute for their joys and the meaning of their life, the same thing happens with the only daughter. Not having siblings generates a disturbance in the image of the double, the child needs the pair outside himself, to structure his own self. Learn from the lives of adults and not from children. The processing of childish fears is interfered with by the fears and concerns of adults: (Childish fears: fear of disappearing to be abandoned, fear of animals, fear of the death of parents and not death itself). (Fear the fear of adults: …show more content…
Perhaps we should say that it is the parents who should watch that some normal reactions are not exaggerated by the fact of having only one child, and thus avoid those myths that, erroneously, have been associated with the only child. The main risk that parents have of an only child is to fall into over-attention. But beware. We are not talking about that kind of attention that provides the child with security, stability, self-confidence, self-esteem and ability to develop properly. We are talking about that over-attention that is tied to the parents ' fear that their child may be wrong, that attention that can quickly transform into a protective attitude. Too much attention can lead to excessive worry and exaggerated fear that something happens to the child. We must learn to control the excess of fear because we could transmit that fear to our son and not let him enjoy some activities that he could live very satisfactorily: leaving colonies, playing adventure sports, etc. The possibility that the child is conceited, egocentric or consenting depends, in large part, on how we address him and how we praise his successes. We will try not to evaluate it indiscriminately, avoiding phrases like "you are the best", "you are the most intelligent", replacing them with more realistic phrases such as: "Very well," congratulate you on the note you took on the math test "Or" …show more content…
This can be very positive, but we must not forget that it is a child and you need to share time and space with other children your age. To facilitate contact with other children, we can allow them to go to their friends ' house or to come to our house to play, team sports, etc. Our son, not experiencing the friction and typical fights between siblings, may have more difficulty to mature emotionally. This situation can be aggravated if we overprotect our child and try to prevent him from "suffering", for example, by defending him immediately when he begins to quarrel with another child. That is why it is very important that our son comes in contact with children his age and we know to keep out. In this way you will learn to relate, share, compete and experience fights and discussions of your age.
Finally, it should be noted that when the first and second sibling have a difference of seven years or more, we can consider the older son as an only child, since in his first years of life, the most decisive from the point Of psychological and emotional development, will have been created as such. That is why it is so important that our child has been raised in a balanced family environment, as a member more and not as the center of attention, to make it easy and natural to share space, affection, time, objects, parents,