In most relationships,there needs to be a balance of avoidance and approach motivations wherein people feel safe as well as stimulated. On either extreme of this spectrum there is a fear of to much one or the other. Leading to a feeling of a dull or boring relationship that is present on the avoidance end or a feeling of lack of safety on the other both lending to possible reasons for a relationship to be undesirable.
In the diagram that is provided in chapter six there are four different categorizations that are provided that map the levels at which people try to balance both approach and avoidant motivations in there everyday relationships. Thinking of college it would be easiest to classify friendships with a known partier as a precarious …show more content…
More clearly seen in relationships where there are sacrifices made by one person that are not or can not be made at the same rate of reward by the other. This can be see in student totuoring positions. Wherein the tutor is asked to take time away from their own studies to help other students. Some could say that the rewarding feeling of helping a peer or the minimum wage payment they receive does not adequately account for the amount of time that has been taken from their studies. With this distribution of avoidance and approach motivations it could be said that the high level of costs there is not enough Approach motivations that positively influence the relationship making it seem worthless. On the flip side of this argument is the concept of flourishing relationships. Which are defined as a relationship with many delights and few costs. This could be seen as the relationship that is shared with a boss in a low skilled work study job and their employee. In this relationship the Approach level is high because the reward of a paycheck is constant and therefore could make it easier to enjoy your work while it is low in avoidance because as long as you show up you are always guaranteed a paycheck at little cost to you due to lack of stress from mundane tasks, giving you job
In the diagram that is provided in chapter six there are four different categorizations that are provided that map the levels at which people try to balance both approach and avoidant motivations in there everyday relationships. Thinking of college it would be easiest to classify friendships with a known partier as a precarious …show more content…
More clearly seen in relationships where there are sacrifices made by one person that are not or can not be made at the same rate of reward by the other. This can be see in student totuoring positions. Wherein the tutor is asked to take time away from their own studies to help other students. Some could say that the rewarding feeling of helping a peer or the minimum wage payment they receive does not adequately account for the amount of time that has been taken from their studies. With this distribution of avoidance and approach motivations it could be said that the high level of costs there is not enough Approach motivations that positively influence the relationship making it seem worthless. On the flip side of this argument is the concept of flourishing relationships. Which are defined as a relationship with many delights and few costs. This could be seen as the relationship that is shared with a boss in a low skilled work study job and their employee. In this relationship the Approach level is high because the reward of a paycheck is constant and therefore could make it easier to enjoy your work while it is low in avoidance because as long as you show up you are always guaranteed a paycheck at little cost to you due to lack of stress from mundane tasks, giving you job