My parents were always there for me, and they supported me in my actions and decisions while still keeping a guiding hand when those actions and decisions were not for the best. My parents let me make my own decisions, but they were there with advice on what decisions to make. And, if I made poor decisions, they were there to pick me back up and brush me off. I was close with them, so in turn I can be close with others when I find the right people. I believe my security also had to do with watching my parents in their relationship. Because they were secure in their relationship, even under duress, I am able to mirror that same security. When it comes to a select few of my choosing (as I can be incredibly picky), I am comfortable with being close to others. I am not terribly concerned with being abandoned. According to Burger (2011), these qualities would classify me as a secure adult (p. 145). In my relationship, I trust my boyfriend wholly. I am committed, and I love him. These also are qualities possessed by a secure adult (Burger, 2011, p. 147). We share a lot of support for each other and share personal information and stories, as Burger (2011) says is characteristic of secure adults (p. …show more content…
Just as having a secure attachment with one’s parents can lead to secure attachments with other people, so too can this lead to having a secure attachment with God. When an individual can trust and depend upon her parents, she has an easier time trusting an almighty God. If she can turn to her parents for help, she will have an easier time turning to God for help. Even Freud acknowledged that God could be seen as a father figure in order to grant security (Burger, 2011, p. 116). Though Freud thought God was only an unconscious creation, he was on to something. God is a father figure. Even to those without a secure attachment, He can fill in that gap and restore a secure attachment, just as an attachment style can change with a romantic partner (Burger, 2011, p. 149). He is the “ultimate attachment figure for corrective attachment” since the bond cannot be corrupted from His side (Houser, 2013, p. 281). Due to His nature, He cannot let down an individual who is bonded to Him. As I have a secure attachment style, I have found it easy to open up to God. I am able to simply tell Him everything and let Him guide me. I trust Him. Part of that has to do with how my parents taught me to trust Him and how I was able to trust them by seeing their trust in