My attachment style dilemma
I knew this day would come, where I would have to figure out what my attachment style is. The only problem, even after taking developmental psychology and reading the course books for this class, I’m still contemplating what my attachment style was growing up. Some of the issues I have come across are: time spent with parents, environmental factors, and attachment style change.
Time with parents
On October 10th my mother gave birth to me in Baltimore, Maryland. Within the first week of my birth, my parents found out that their healthy baby boy way falling ill. So ill that one night my mother told my father that I needed medical attention. In the middle of the night, my father rushed me and my mother to the emergency room. Thankfully, the doctors took them in quickly for the nurses soon realized that my internal organs were shutting down. The doctors quickly took me in the back, while my parents had to wait …show more content…
As a consequence, the lack of quality time spent together played a major roll to my attachment style change. I do believe at one point, during my first year on earth, my attachment style was secure. I have this faint memory of my parents dropping me off at grandmother’s house. I was so upset that I ran and hid under the kitchen table, hopping that my parents would come back at any moment. They came back two years later, only to drop off my little brother. During those five years I developed a secured attachment to my grandmother. This would change when my parents came back to pick me and my brother up. I never truly felt secure around anyone else again; I am aware that this has affected my relationship with anyone that tries to come too close to me. I have been hurt both physically and mentally to the point that I created a cocoon, to separate myself from other people. This cocoon always people to walk up to me, but denies them access to all of
I knew this day would come, where I would have to figure out what my attachment style is. The only problem, even after taking developmental psychology and reading the course books for this class, I’m still contemplating what my attachment style was growing up. Some of the issues I have come across are: time spent with parents, environmental factors, and attachment style change.
Time with parents
On October 10th my mother gave birth to me in Baltimore, Maryland. Within the first week of my birth, my parents found out that their healthy baby boy way falling ill. So ill that one night my mother told my father that I needed medical attention. In the middle of the night, my father rushed me and my mother to the emergency room. Thankfully, the doctors took them in quickly for the nurses soon realized that my internal organs were shutting down. The doctors quickly took me in the back, while my parents had to wait …show more content…
As a consequence, the lack of quality time spent together played a major roll to my attachment style change. I do believe at one point, during my first year on earth, my attachment style was secure. I have this faint memory of my parents dropping me off at grandmother’s house. I was so upset that I ran and hid under the kitchen table, hopping that my parents would come back at any moment. They came back two years later, only to drop off my little brother. During those five years I developed a secured attachment to my grandmother. This would change when my parents came back to pick me and my brother up. I never truly felt secure around anyone else again; I am aware that this has affected my relationship with anyone that tries to come too close to me. I have been hurt both physically and mentally to the point that I created a cocoon, to separate myself from other people. This cocoon always people to walk up to me, but denies them access to all of