“You’re so aggressive?”
“Can’t you just have a normal conversation?”
“Why are you being so emotional?”
In my 21 years of life, i must have heard these words approximately 46,984,765 times. And what i noticed was, the older i got and the more “adult” conversations i was involved in, the more i got stuck with this goddamn label.
Emotional has become the new irrational. But why are people so quick to brush off your opinions or feelings as being overly emotional or overly sensitive?
People are uncomfortable with the truth, they would much rather be blind than have the very belief they hold dear shaken. This is why people will never be straight-up with you when asked how they feel. They’ll usually tell you what you want to hear and tell …show more content…
The subtext to this label is simple. What you are saying is: you are behaving in a way that is making me uncomfortable. Please stop. It says that you are not willing to engage with that woman emotionally in order to address the real concern here because it doesn’t align with the state of mind you are in.
When you are labeled as emotional or aggressive, your issue in minimized. By telling a woman she is being emotional, you are telling her that she doesn’t have a right to feel or think a certain way because you don’t want her to think a certain way.
Labeling women as crazy or emotional is a way of controlling them. As i said previously, it may not be intention or premeditated, but calling a woman crazy is the easiest way to shut-down any discussion and put her on the defensive. The responsibility isn’t that the person has to address the woman’s issue, it’s now the woman’s duty to justify her behavior, and prove that is she not being crazy or emotional.
As a woman, you are put into one of two categories: the pure Madonna, or the crazy bitch. This dichotomy is perpetuated even today, even though it is not in people’s intentions to do so, and it is directly linked to the idea that a woman’s opinions will always be secondary (to men’s, that
“Can’t you just have a normal conversation?”
“Why are you being so emotional?”
In my 21 years of life, i must have heard these words approximately 46,984,765 times. And what i noticed was, the older i got and the more “adult” conversations i was involved in, the more i got stuck with this goddamn label.
Emotional has become the new irrational. But why are people so quick to brush off your opinions or feelings as being overly emotional or overly sensitive?
People are uncomfortable with the truth, they would much rather be blind than have the very belief they hold dear shaken. This is why people will never be straight-up with you when asked how they feel. They’ll usually tell you what you want to hear and tell …show more content…
The subtext to this label is simple. What you are saying is: you are behaving in a way that is making me uncomfortable. Please stop. It says that you are not willing to engage with that woman emotionally in order to address the real concern here because it doesn’t align with the state of mind you are in.
When you are labeled as emotional or aggressive, your issue in minimized. By telling a woman she is being emotional, you are telling her that she doesn’t have a right to feel or think a certain way because you don’t want her to think a certain way.
Labeling women as crazy or emotional is a way of controlling them. As i said previously, it may not be intention or premeditated, but calling a woman crazy is the easiest way to shut-down any discussion and put her on the defensive. The responsibility isn’t that the person has to address the woman’s issue, it’s now the woman’s duty to justify her behavior, and prove that is she not being crazy or emotional.
As a woman, you are put into one of two categories: the pure Madonna, or the crazy bitch. This dichotomy is perpetuated even today, even though it is not in people’s intentions to do so, and it is directly linked to the idea that a woman’s opinions will always be secondary (to men’s, that