“Whats Love Got To Do With It”? A legendary song of the twentieth century and a well-fit slogan for the eighteenth century. Looking into the roots of our ancestors and the maltreatment of love has made me think of the recent generations definition of love and also the meaning of marriage. Today’s meaning of marriage include a deep and profound love between two people. Surprisingly it was nothing of what I had imagined.…
Eyes covered with promises of a easy living distracted Janie from what was most important, the future outcomes. Without complete knowledge of a spouse's future plans one can feel distant from them or even laps behind, feelings which no one enjoys to be greeted with every morning. Marriage is the commitment to lift one another when time feels short and breathing feels unbarable. For the “to be continued” to be continued, again and again, with the one you love. Never losing interest in each other and always looking out for one another.…
What comes to mind when you think of marriage? In modern times, I think in marriage you and your partner should contribute financially and emotionally. In Kate Chopin’s “Story of an Hour”, it expresses how marriage is thought to be a happy feeling. But the character Louise Mallard is no longer happy. She feels she has lost her sense of identity because she is a wife.…
The forerunning researcher of matrimonial satisfaction, Dr. John Gottman constructed findings from examining numerous couples who confirmed their romantic union through a ceremony. Identified by a biblical reference of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, Gottman systematically explained as to why married partners may become estranged. Guided by a negative affect reciprocity model, Gottman theorized four intercommunication techniques that are present in one's marital interaction that can predict a couple's plausibility of divorce. Through the interpretation of Gottman’s exploration of marital quality from his observations of others, I was able to evaluate my peer’s relationship with her husband (Baril & Corneal, 2010).…
Chapter 8 Homework Questions: Revolution and Republican Culture Explain the economic developments in banking and credit (p.250-251) There was a debate made whether banks should be individual or bank owned Economic crisis with lots of banking issues were caused by sketchy bank policies Realized that there’s not a lot of worth for what people owe them or their credits What changes were made in the rural economy and how did that change the landscape? (p.251-255 Through rural manufacturing, technology was able to improve the way merchants and farmers sell…
Why “Happily Ever After” is Ruining our Marriages Imagine the perfect, fairy tale wedding: A dainty bride in a pristine white, flowing dress, a handsome groom clad in an ebony tuxedo, a picturesque flowergirl and ringbearer, the birds chirping and the sun shining, and a carriage waiting to carry away the newlyweds. But after that… then what? Happily ever after? This is the western approach to romance. Americans expect the love that begins with their significant other’s looks, as that is normally how courtship begins, to last “till death do us part.”…
To have an inherently problematic marriage, is for one to become immune to a problem he or she may be facing. In Kay Boyle the “Astronomer’s Wife,” and Charlotte Perkins Gilman “The Yellow Wallpaper,” both shared some similarities in their marriage of feeling lonely, does not have a voice or feel invisible by their patterns. Perhaps society norms on how men and women in a marriage should behave can lead to a lack of equality in a marriage. In the “Astronomer’s Wife,” by Kay Boyle.…
Marriage is when two people make their relationship official, and permanent in a way which it is suppose to last forever until “death do us part”. Then again, for the past century, we have seen this practice of marriage increasingly cut short by the tragedy of divorce. Until death do us part can last several decades in a marriage, and a lot can happen during those decades of life. Your life changes and goes by every day and you can’t take a single one back or for granted. Your body changes, personality, loved people around you come and go, and your romantic love waxes and wanes.…
In the poem “Modern Love” by George Meredith, the speaker investigates the substances of “modern love” and the torment it causes. The sixteen line reconstructed sonnet communicates the emotions and perspectives of a hopelessly wedded couple, who endure hardship. However, regardless to their actual sentiments; the married couple quantifies the perfect “modern love” relationship, secretly living in anguish as opposed to surprise society and its desires. Meredith talks of society and contained marriage, indicating how they demolish a man and seek after what is to come. The mood of the poem is set within the opening line.…
In the poem “If” by Rudyard Kipling and the well-known “American Gothic” by Grant Wood, Kipling and Wood work to illustrate the constant struggle to find the middle ground in life existing in marriage, dreams becoming a reality, financial success, and the middle class American Dream. The act of marriage does not always foster a happy relationship at first, but a new sense of happiness can be forged out of the couple’s willingness to achieve happiness. In both art forms, viewers see that there are qualities that one would find in a bad relationship. Rudyard Kipling says that “If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, / Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, / Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,” (Kipling 5-7). Kipling…
Tara Parker-Pope in “The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage” discusses what people in marriages do to stay together; in addition to what makes them happy in a relationship. Pope expresses how many couples want more than just a companion; they want a marriage to withstand all hardship, conflict, and time. She discusses the differences of present day marriages from ones in the past. She states that people today are looking for fascinating mates to in turn make their existence more gratifying; compared to in the past where marriages formed for security and social status. The “Michelangelo effect”, coined by Caryl Rusbult, states that couples shape one another to better reach success and objectives in life (Parker-Pope).…
Getting along with other people, shouldn’t be difficult considering that humans are social creatures. But human beings have a sin problem; to go along with that social craving that can get in the way. As Jer. 17: 9 states “ The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it”(ESV)? But all is not lost; it is possible to get along even with the most difficult among us.…
Relationships, and love in general can be very complicated and difficult. There are often many trials and obstacles to overcome, whether it be pride, other people’s opinions, or even family members, believe it or not. Many people base their feelings for others upon things the people around them have said, and have led them to believe. This is a world where people rarely decide things for themselves. It is found that many people marry for money, and/or a higher social ranking, instead of for love.…
Choosing a mate is life’s single most important challenge, says Dr. Neil Warren on page two of his book, “Finding The Love of Your Life.” In the 161 following pages, Dr. Warren explains through ten principles why the selection of a spouse is of utmost important. These critical principles were formulated based upon his experiences as a psychologist. He found that the search for a future spouse is often thought of lightly, but this pursuit is not a matter of luck, nor should it be done in jest. Dr. Warren believes that there are skills involved in selecting a spouse and that once these skills are developed by the application of his ten principles, the divorce rate can decrease.…
The novel “cannot be dismissed as a Cinderella `someday my prince will come `” (Pinion 95) type plot. It is evident that much of the characters in the novel do not marry because they have found their true companion. Instead, the text becomes a story about the “failed mutuality” (Tanner 10) of most couples. Pride and Prejudice does not support the idea of a companionate marriage simply because the characters get married for two principle reasons: finance and social class, as argued in this…