Love Lab
John gottman videotaped many married couples over 9 years and concluded those who stay married over those 9 years argued as much as the ones who divorced.
How to succeed an argument
When the person persuades their audience
Argument by the stick
Using your hands to fight, (Never persuades)
Argument
Persuasion that tries to change someone’s mind, mood or desire to do something
Difference between argument and a fight
Argument is suppose to persuade someone to do what you want and attain agreement, when fighting you do it to win.
How to persuade someone to agree with you
To get someone to agree with you, agree with them, “rhetorical jujitsu”
Three goals to get action
Mood, mind and desire to act
Debate
A formal discussion
John gottman videotaped many married couples over 9 years and concluded those who stay married over those 9 years argued as much as the ones who divorced.
How to succeed an argument
When the person persuades their audience
Argument by the stick
Using your hands to fight, (Never persuades)
Argument
Persuasion that tries to change someone’s mind, mood or desire to do something
Difference between argument and a fight
Argument is suppose to persuade someone to do what you want and attain agreement, when fighting you do it to win.
How to persuade someone to agree with you
To get someone to agree with you, agree with them, “rhetorical jujitsu”
Three goals to get action
Mood, mind and desire to act
Debate
A formal discussion