Personal Narrative: The Bryan Family

Let me first start off by saying The Bryan Family is hands down the best group of people in the world. I am the youngest of three, I have an older sister (29), an older brother (24), and then there is myself (23). I also have two amazing parents who got a divorce when I was 3 years old and both remarried when I was 5. We are a very close-knit family who like to be involved in each other’s lives. Through the second marriage I gained a step-mom and dad, who also had children from their previous marriages, giving us three step-siblings. Growing up my mom had primary custody of all three children, leaving my dad with once a week and every other weekend, dads always get the short end of the stick. Growing up I always related really well with Robin …show more content…
Some boundaries placed in my family are knock before you enter a role, that way we are respect each other’s space and privacy. Another way I exhibit boundaries within my relationships, I inform them exactly what lines we will not be crossing upfront so they can not be upset later. Homeostasis is the resist of change, families strive to keep balance and do anything they can to keep a stable system. My family, from the get go, hit big change with a divorce that was inevitable, but tried their best to keep stability through communication and flexibility with one another. Or it can be seen through my brothers recovery and we tried to hit it from the outside world by telling them, ‘everything is fine’. With that rules are also a big thing within a family system, they maintain the stability that is strived for within a family system. Two big rules around my family are to get a college education and to make good money. I think these are a big deal because my mom started her own business and with that you put a lot of money and at first don’t get a lot out so we were tight for money a lot of the time. All of these ideas are programmed into our family without being told about them ahead of time. Triangulation is seen all throughout my family, it is the concept of two members joining together positively or negatively to make a point to another member. In my family the most recent occurrence of this was with my sister and me teaming together to talk to my mom about her spending habits and how it isn’t healthy for the family when you have no money to spend. We also use to gang up on my mom at times when she was enabling our brother financially, when he didn’t need it or if he was using her for money and she wouldn’t say no. Triangulation is accentually the idea of power in