"Arranged marriages were never pushed on us [her and her sister]. For me growing up I couldn’t fathom the thought of being told who to get married to." Singari knows herself but she doesn’t push her beliefs onto the people around her. "I had best friends who were getting married to people they had never met. I think my take on the whole arranged marriage thing is it’s very personal. I think the success rate, if you want to call it that, is equal. I don’t think there’s a single answer." Singari and her husband moved to Chicago, where their son was eventually born. After about 4 years in Chicago, Singari’s husband’s company was bought, and he got offered an amazing position to work at the New York stock exchange. Singari’s job did not continue
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In India food take a long time to make, and women generally spend all day in the kitchen cooking, but Singari doesn’t fit that mold. She told me, "It took me a while to get comfortable admitting I’m an Indian woman who doesn’t like to cook, which by the way is a minority, but I’m fine with it now. I could spend 2 hours doing a spreadsheet with financial models and number crunching, but don’t put me in a kitchen. A lot of people think that’s weird, but it’s just who I am." Singari knows who she is and she doesn’t shy away from being that person. Her user profile picture for her computer login, a yin-and-yang, sums her up so well. She knows she is not perfect. There is the good and the bad, parts about herself she loves and parts she doesn’t like as much. "I know that you can’t be good at everything," she told me, "and you can’t love everything and that’s ok. If your comfortable and confident as a person and you have something that you can feel happy about then the rest of it starts to matter less." Singari is radiates comfortable and confident but she doesn 't stop there. She wants to share the happiness she’s found with the rest of the world. "That’s a large part of the work I do with women. I think as mom’s we always struggle with are we a good enough mom so that’s really hard to fall back on as the only thing. That’s why I think it is so important that women have something outside of just being mom. If you have something that is you and is not necessarily associated with you being a mom I think it makes you feel whole as a
In India food take a long time to make, and women generally spend all day in the kitchen cooking, but Singari doesn’t fit that mold. She told me, "It took me a while to get comfortable admitting I’m an Indian woman who doesn’t like to cook, which by the way is a minority, but I’m fine with it now. I could spend 2 hours doing a spreadsheet with financial models and number crunching, but don’t put me in a kitchen. A lot of people think that’s weird, but it’s just who I am." Singari knows who she is and she doesn’t shy away from being that person. Her user profile picture for her computer login, a yin-and-yang, sums her up so well. She knows she is not perfect. There is the good and the bad, parts about herself she loves and parts she doesn’t like as much. "I know that you can’t be good at everything," she told me, "and you can’t love everything and that’s ok. If your comfortable and confident as a person and you have something that you can feel happy about then the rest of it starts to matter less." Singari is radiates comfortable and confident but she doesn 't stop there. She wants to share the happiness she’s found with the rest of the world. "That’s a large part of the work I do with women. I think as mom’s we always struggle with are we a good enough mom so that’s really hard to fall back on as the only thing. That’s why I think it is so important that women have something outside of just being mom. If you have something that is you and is not necessarily associated with you being a mom I think it makes you feel whole as a