5 Ways Addicts Play the Victim Role
By the time an addictive process has become truly problematic, a person has come up with a bunch of more or less sophisticated defense mechanisms to continue with the harmful behavior. One of these defense mechanisms is playing the victim role.
Knowingly playing the victim role helps an addict to control and influence the thoughts and feelings of others, most commonly parents and spouses. An addict hardly copes with his actions — he’s ashamed or afraid to acknowledge this and seek help — so he justifies his actions as a way of controlling the situation.
Many people across the globe are actually the victims of someone else’s behavior. Abused children and adults that are going through sexual, physical, or …show more content…
for stressing them out, and then drink in order to cope with the situation. An addict lives in a denial that some cruel fate is responsible for making their life get out of the hands, but they are not the victims, they are the perpetrators. Once you become a prisoner to your addiction, you are like a pilot that has lost control of the plane and gives up not only on yourself, but everything and everyone else around you.
2. Passive-aggression
Passive aggression is defined as an indirect expression of hostility and destructiveness. An addict who plays the victim role tends to be passive-aggressive. Since it’s hard to cope with addiction, addicts are often full of anger they tend to shift to other people by being sarcastic, cynical, stubborn, resentful – to name a few ways that passive-aggression can be manifested.
3. “Let’s leave it for tomorrow” way of living
There’s no question that substance abuse can make people selfish. They often lack sympathy or empathy toward others, but frequently expect others to adjust to their needs.
o “It’s not fair that I have to...” o “I can’t do it today, let’s leave it for tomorrow.” o “That’s too hard and I’m tired.” o “But how come that …?”
It’s no wonder the addicts complain a lot. Sometimes, it’s so much easier to bitch and complain in hope that someone else will take our responsibilities, instead of putting effort and taking care of our burdens.
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Coming up with excuses to drink or intoxicate yourself in any other way means that you’re fooling those around you by playing the victim role. Lying about the quality of your life so you can drink or use drugs can mean only one thing – you have a problem that needs to be addressed.
5. “I’m not THAT bad” attitude
Minimization of the problems that come with addiction is a common way that addicted person copes with the situation. The addict is well aware that a problem exists, but he stubbornly tries to convince everyone —despite of all the evidence— that he’s better than others think of him.
There’s no sobriety without taking responsibility
There comes a point where you have to stop blaming other people and situations for your addiction and seek appropriate help. There’s no sobriety unless you take responsibility!
Don’t let addiction win! If you or someone you love struggle with getting sober and need detoxification, call us! Our team of well-trained experts will figure out what are the best options for getting your life in a direction that you will be proud of, so you can stop playing the victim
By the time an addictive process has become truly problematic, a person has come up with a bunch of more or less sophisticated defense mechanisms to continue with the harmful behavior. One of these defense mechanisms is playing the victim role.
Knowingly playing the victim role helps an addict to control and influence the thoughts and feelings of others, most commonly parents and spouses. An addict hardly copes with his actions — he’s ashamed or afraid to acknowledge this and seek help — so he justifies his actions as a way of controlling the situation.
Many people across the globe are actually the victims of someone else’s behavior. Abused children and adults that are going through sexual, physical, or …show more content…
for stressing them out, and then drink in order to cope with the situation. An addict lives in a denial that some cruel fate is responsible for making their life get out of the hands, but they are not the victims, they are the perpetrators. Once you become a prisoner to your addiction, you are like a pilot that has lost control of the plane and gives up not only on yourself, but everything and everyone else around you.
2. Passive-aggression
Passive aggression is defined as an indirect expression of hostility and destructiveness. An addict who plays the victim role tends to be passive-aggressive. Since it’s hard to cope with addiction, addicts are often full of anger they tend to shift to other people by being sarcastic, cynical, stubborn, resentful – to name a few ways that passive-aggression can be manifested.
3. “Let’s leave it for tomorrow” way of living
There’s no question that substance abuse can make people selfish. They often lack sympathy or empathy toward others, but frequently expect others to adjust to their needs.
o “It’s not fair that I have to...” o “I can’t do it today, let’s leave it for tomorrow.” o “That’s too hard and I’m tired.” o “But how come that …?”
It’s no wonder the addicts complain a lot. Sometimes, it’s so much easier to bitch and complain in hope that someone else will take our responsibilities, instead of putting effort and taking care of our burdens.
4. …show more content…
Coming up with excuses to drink or intoxicate yourself in any other way means that you’re fooling those around you by playing the victim role. Lying about the quality of your life so you can drink or use drugs can mean only one thing – you have a problem that needs to be addressed.
5. “I’m not THAT bad” attitude
Minimization of the problems that come with addiction is a common way that addicted person copes with the situation. The addict is well aware that a problem exists, but he stubbornly tries to convince everyone —despite of all the evidence— that he’s better than others think of him.
There’s no sobriety without taking responsibility
There comes a point where you have to stop blaming other people and situations for your addiction and seek appropriate help. There’s no sobriety unless you take responsibility!
Don’t let addiction win! If you or someone you love struggle with getting sober and need detoxification, call us! Our team of well-trained experts will figure out what are the best options for getting your life in a direction that you will be proud of, so you can stop playing the victim