Anger In Family Research Paper

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Unfortunately, anger has been apart of my life far more than I would have liked for it to be. My family has been based around anger and resentment for years. I saw my family hide away anger, never dealing with it. They simply would pretend that nothing was happening and their anger would turn into resentment, which turned into a grudge. They justify holding on to a grudge by saying that they are only protecting themselves. In my immediate family I realized that anger was handled by yelling until a compromise was made. While I would like it to say that it was only my family, I too held on to my anger for years. It is very easy to become angry at someone when they wrong you, especially for me, when I am not offered an apology. While I am the …show more content…
He had his first corrective surgery at 17, and everything went very well. However, in 2005 his back began to deteriorate and the rods needed to be changed. He underwent surgery and the doctor completely ruined his back, by putting rods in that were to short and the wrong kind. From here he got progressively worse, he was in so much pain that he became addicted to his pain medicine, he began drinking more and more to numb the pain. Through this process he became aggressive, he began mentally, physically and emotionally abusive to my mother, my sister, and myself. There were times I feared things would be come so bad that we would not make it the out. After years of agonizing abuse and living in a constant state of fear, my mother and I finally were removed from the house with the desecration of the Fresno Police. While I will not dive into every aspect of those very long years, I shared this story to address that I carried a buried of anger and resentment for years. I have to admit that there are times where I still reminisce in the moments from my past and become anger at my father for what he had done to us and put us through. “You will not be punished for your anger, you be punished by your anger.” (Buddha) This quote offered me a different understanding of my anger, it allowed me to understand that it was ok to feel anger but not for anger to be able to control me. Just as we had discussed in lecture, everyone get angry its what we do with the anger that is the

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