I am a firm believer that in this world there are few people who can be called a true friend. Many people I believe are lucky enough to find a few of these friends. Friends that will go through anything to help you and that you would do the same for in turn. There is a possibility that some people will never find one of these true friends. I am lucky enough to have one such friend in my life and hopefully we will always have such a strong bond. The relationship I shall be analyzing in this paper is the relationship with my best friend Johnny. Over the years we have gone through many struggles individually and collectively and have come to think of each other as brothers if not in blood then in spirit. In this paper I shall be using the Six-Stage
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My first true contact with Johnny did not foreshadow how strong our friendship is in present time. In fact at first we were not really friends at all more of a competitor-acquaintance relationship. I met Johnny when we were both 13 years old at a camping trip sponsored by the Boy Scouts of America. I was invited to go by my aunt who was involved in the troop and whose son my cousin was a member of. This was a activity my Mom and Aunt thought would help me make some friends in middle school as all of my friends had either moved to different schools, or joined different social groups that I did not like leaving me friendless at the time. Johnny happened to be a member of the scout troop as well. Our interactional contact was not the best start to a friendship. Having seen Johnny around school I knew his name and said something along the lines of, “Hey Johnny you a member of the troop?” He proceeded to glare and say, “Why do you know my name?” Because he had used the negative tone and had a glare I proceeded to write him off as some brutish figure who I would not try to get to know. Many years later I learned that Johnny is …show more content…
Johnny is one of the most intelligent and thoughtful people I know. It was that he is generally a lazy person and has little to no motivation to complete the assignments in the AP classes. Because we eventually were filtered into different classes our social circles changed somewhat. I made friends with a lot of the kids that were in the AP courses and Johnny made friends with people in the regular level courses. Rather than break our friendship apart this seemed to make the time at lunch and after school that much more special and meaningful. We had formed a level of interdependency where what we did to each other and ourselves effected the other in almost the same intensity. This is why during our sophomore year when I developed an illness it did not put a strain on our relationship but helped it grow by going though struggles in our individual lives and helping each other through them. Due to our friendship becoming one of best friends instead of just a passing or even close friendship allowed the depth and breadth of our conversations and self-disclosures to grow. Our friendship had changed from one where mainly ideas were discussed and contemplated on; now it had grown to where there was ego-support and affirmations which sealed our friendship. By sharing
My first true contact with Johnny did not foreshadow how strong our friendship is in present time. In fact at first we were not really friends at all more of a competitor-acquaintance relationship. I met Johnny when we were both 13 years old at a camping trip sponsored by the Boy Scouts of America. I was invited to go by my aunt who was involved in the troop and whose son my cousin was a member of. This was a activity my Mom and Aunt thought would help me make some friends in middle school as all of my friends had either moved to different schools, or joined different social groups that I did not like leaving me friendless at the time. Johnny happened to be a member of the scout troop as well. Our interactional contact was not the best start to a friendship. Having seen Johnny around school I knew his name and said something along the lines of, “Hey Johnny you a member of the troop?” He proceeded to glare and say, “Why do you know my name?” Because he had used the negative tone and had a glare I proceeded to write him off as some brutish figure who I would not try to get to know. Many years later I learned that Johnny is …show more content…
Johnny is one of the most intelligent and thoughtful people I know. It was that he is generally a lazy person and has little to no motivation to complete the assignments in the AP classes. Because we eventually were filtered into different classes our social circles changed somewhat. I made friends with a lot of the kids that were in the AP courses and Johnny made friends with people in the regular level courses. Rather than break our friendship apart this seemed to make the time at lunch and after school that much more special and meaningful. We had formed a level of interdependency where what we did to each other and ourselves effected the other in almost the same intensity. This is why during our sophomore year when I developed an illness it did not put a strain on our relationship but helped it grow by going though struggles in our individual lives and helping each other through them. Due to our friendship becoming one of best friends instead of just a passing or even close friendship allowed the depth and breadth of our conversations and self-disclosures to grow. Our friendship had changed from one where mainly ideas were discussed and contemplated on; now it had grown to where there was ego-support and affirmations which sealed our friendship. By sharing