In the heat of the moment we can say things that can cut like a knife and leave a scar that will never completely go away. Instead, with time it will fade and so will the pain associated with that scar. Amy Tan explains this with her relationship with her mother in “The Most Hateful Words.” excerpted from her memoir, The Opposite of Fate, published by Penguin Books in New York in 2003. This is a story of a woman and how her relationship with her mother was of one that included harsh words, isolation, resentment, and then guilt.
As a teenage girl life can be very dramatic and at times very confusing. Most teens turn to the person they feel they can relate the most and of course who will side with them. This person would usually …show more content…
I can see it from her mother’s view. Sometimes as mothers we are so concentrated on making sure our children don’t make the same mistakes we did growing up, we lose sight of the meaning of a mother and eventually do or say things we will regret when our children are grown. When Amy Tan wrote how her mother stated she might die as well, after her Tan’s statement: "I hate you. I wish I were dead...."(Tan) I can relate to her mother. Hearing your daughter say those words are just as harsh or hurtful as what made her say them. I believe her mother reacted in a way most mothers can …show more content…
All the pain she had carried for all these years had been lifted. She just wanted her mother to listen to her and when she called apologizing Amy Tan knew she has finally gained her mother’s attention. I think the statement she made, “Together we knew in our hearts what we should remember, what we can forget.” She was able to get some type of closure for all the years she had to carry resentment. She could for the first time truly understand her mother and felt her mother understands her. She was able to get this closure after many years; because, her mother knows deep down her times is about up and she wants to make amends with her