Here’s a story. I want to get a game for my Xbox and my mom says no. I get frustrated and just go to my room. I didn’t get what I wanted. However, when I was reading the book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens,” I learned of a possible solution to this problem. This was in Habit 4 ‘Think Win-Win’ and it talked about the 4 types of thinking, Win-Lose, Lose-Win, Lose-Lose, and Win-Win.
In Win-Lose, it talks about the times when you’re in an argument and you win the argument and get what you want, and the other person walks away with nothing. You usually end up manipulating and using other people for your own benefit. You’re being selfish. In Lose-Win, it’s the other way around. You’re the doormat that’s being walked upon by others. …show more content…
If you don’t think Win-Win, then you could run the risk of not getting what you want or using someone to your advantage in a selfish way.
One of my stories of when I used the Win-Win was when I was having an argument with my mom a couple of years ago. The argument was over if I should be allowed to have the social media app Snapchat or not. I really wanted to be able to get the app, but my mom was hesitant. In this case, I also used the 5th habit in the book, ‘Seek first to understand, then to be understood.’ Using this habit, I asked my mom,
“ Why are you hesitant about allowing me to get Snapchat?” and she told me
“I’m worried that you won’t make the best choices when you add people on there.” I couldn’t really argue with that. “I don’t want you getting caught up with bad people.”
After she was finished, I shared my thinking.
“I knew you were going to be concerned about that. That’s why I promise that I wouldn’t add those people, and just add the people I know don’t do bad things.” However, she was not convinced. I figured, if I wanted to get what I wanted (which of course was Snapchat), I would have to find a compromise with my mom. So I asked her “could we maybe find a compromise?” She
In Win-Lose, it talks about the times when you’re in an argument and you win the argument and get what you want, and the other person walks away with nothing. You usually end up manipulating and using other people for your own benefit. You’re being selfish. In Lose-Win, it’s the other way around. You’re the doormat that’s being walked upon by others. …show more content…
If you don’t think Win-Win, then you could run the risk of not getting what you want or using someone to your advantage in a selfish way.
One of my stories of when I used the Win-Win was when I was having an argument with my mom a couple of years ago. The argument was over if I should be allowed to have the social media app Snapchat or not. I really wanted to be able to get the app, but my mom was hesitant. In this case, I also used the 5th habit in the book, ‘Seek first to understand, then to be understood.’ Using this habit, I asked my mom,
“ Why are you hesitant about allowing me to get Snapchat?” and she told me
“I’m worried that you won’t make the best choices when you add people on there.” I couldn’t really argue with that. “I don’t want you getting caught up with bad people.”
After she was finished, I shared my thinking.
“I knew you were going to be concerned about that. That’s why I promise that I wouldn’t add those people, and just add the people I know don’t do bad things.” However, she was not convinced. I figured, if I wanted to get what I wanted (which of course was Snapchat), I would have to find a compromise with my mom. So I asked her “could we maybe find a compromise?” She