Analysis Of Roxanne Gay's A Tale Of Three Coming Out Stories

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Roxanne Gay’s A Tale of Three Coming Out Stories is very powerful. In this book she gives us 3 examples of when public figures most noticeably, Frank Ocean decided to come out and tell the public they’re gay. Most responses to this turned out to be good and that shows what kind of a society we are today. Above I have listed the key repitions and oppositions and ranked them in the way I thought they were most important. My rankings show me that today in this world as people come out it is not as big as a problem because today we are more of an accepting society. Based off my rankings I have noticed a theme about how coming out gay as a public figure can go either two ways. Either it can go great and people will be there for you or people will …show more content…
Many people said they had known of this and it was pre- assumed but, other people said this was the smart thing to do and he should of came out. “Many shrugged and said Cooper’s sexuality was presumed, an open secret. Others insisted it was important and even necessary for Cooper to come out and to, as he puts it, stand up and be counted” (Gay 164). This brings me back to my thesis on how today many people have stood up for those who have come out. Anderson did not receive much backlash for this, instead he was called, the “right kind of gay” because he is not to flamboyant and not too gay. I totally stand behind coper and resect his decision for coming out but that is not a good reason as to why he is the right type of gay. There shouldn’t be a right kind of gay, everyone should be labeled the same no matter what because at the end of the day they are still the same type of person. Even though the world today is in a much better place than it used to be the word gay is still being used a lot in the wrong way. For example, “Still prominent gay people need to stand up and be counted because the word gay is still being used as a slur” (Gay 165). The word gay should not be used in a bad way at all, the word gay is more of a label or category to a group. This is an exact reason as to why maybe people could fear coming out because they could get bullied like Gay stated. Gay is a label not a slur and should not …show more content…
Today there is less and less boundaries a person can proceed by because I feel like everyone pretty much knows everything about everyone already. For instance, “People with high public profiles are allowed very few boundaries. In exchange for the erosion of privacy, they receive fame and/or fortune and/or power” (Gay 161). So, to back my point up is you have a high public profile the media is likely to find out everything about you and release it to the public. So, what can you really do if you don’t want people to know about your personal life? The erosion of privacy can take a toll on someone because this may make a person second guess themselves and they won’t be who they want to. Even as a rap star people will be there to bring you down but for Frank Ocean he had all the support he could get from his fellow R&B community. When Ocean announced he was gay via Tumblr it made for a significant change. Not only was he taking a bold step because of his color but he was also facing a life challenge. This risk he took paid off,” many celebrities vocalized their opinions including Russel Simmons, Beyoncé, 50 cent, and others” (Gay 167). Frank Ocean made a life changing choice which in the end paid off greatly for him. Now many people in the LGBT community look up to

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