If the parents do not try, do not expect the teens too. The kids play the “it is only fair” game when it comes to situations like this. Parents tend to display little warmth and affection or offer conditional love based on obedience and performance. Parents who are high in control over their children often set high standards and expect the children to follow the rules, but those children of strict parents obey the rules. This obedience is then based on fear. The stricter the parents are they normally shame what they had done as kids and expect the kids to do better than what they did. Parents do not think of the times they were kids, they just expect teens to not be who they used to be and how they need to be perfect. In reality, no one is perfect, and everyone, including parents, need to make their own mistakes to learn what is right and what is wrong. Children need to live the life they want rather than the kids live the life the parents want for them. The Classes or books even the groups would be a perfect solution for the parents who want to make an effort to understand that the kids want to live and be happy without them being told they …show more content…
Parents believe that they know everything about their kid and that they need to know everything going on in the teenager 's life. Most teenagers think that their whole life is being controlled by their parents. Talking to a neutral third party with situations like this is a good idea because it allows them to discuss problems going on and how they both feel and allows the professional who knows how to solve and deal with situations like this. It is a lot better to talk to someone who is not involved is easier to explain what you feel and how you see situations like this without being put down by your parents or being told you are wrong. Seeking help from a third party or talking to someone can help your situation and get a better understanding of why the feelings are they way they