Examples Of Love In The Perks Of Being A Wallflower

In life people seek what they believe they deserve, even when it comes to something like love. “We accept the love we think we deserve (Chbosky Perks)” said Bill, the wallflowers teacher. To a great extent do I respect this quote although at the same time find love completely glorified, when Bill said that we in essence crave love and therefore “we accept the love we think we deserve”. To Charlie it shows the choices that his friends have made when it comes to love, like Sam falling for the wrong guy or Patrick loving someone who loves him but will not admit, however it also reveals much of who he is to himself and the love he has for others. For me it does the same and shows the way I view love. Love, in my eyes, is just the outcome of how …show more content…
In the specific scene of Perks of Being a Wallflower, Sam, Charlie’s best friend, asks him “Why do I and everyone I love pick people who treat us like we 're nothing?(Chbosky Perks)” taking into consideration Charlie response with what he had learned “We accept the love we think we deserve?(Chbosky Perks)”. Sam does not make the best choices when it comes to relationships, but she does have the intention in the movie to prove a point, why do we and the ones we love choose the ones who treat us like we’re nothing, like we do not even exist? For instance, in a relationship if a man or woman is chasing after the person they are in love with, to have an affectionate relationship, but they do not have enough confidence in themselves, the person they love seems distant from them, if they have confidence or self-respect they will get that from their loved one. Personally, in my life I have witnessed relationships, of the ones I love crumble because they lost hope in themselves, which just lead to heartbreak. We get what we do not always seem to want when it comes to love. Essentially, meaning if you have a sense of self worth you will end up with someone that will treat you with …show more content…
No, you shouldn’t have to, if you do not love yourself, how do you expect someone else to love you, but that doesn’t mean you find someone who doesn’t love you. Consequently stop watching the sappy fairy tales because in real life it does not always end with happy ever after, so go rewrite your own story, take time to learn to love yourself and receive the love you actually ought to have. There should be no other exceptions other than receiving the love you most definitely deserve. Love is overrated, we should instinctively know, to behave toward and care for somebody as something we desire for ourselves. We should not have to put the label of love on how we feel towards one another. Experiences I have had with love may be negative, that does not mean I do not believe in love. My observation on love throughout my life have been sturdily diverse than