In Chapter One of Marriage and Family: The Quest for Intimacy, we are introduced to various concepts, facts, and misconceptions concerning the experiences one may have when raising a family or living their life with another human being. Personally, there was plenty of information to learn and discover in this chapter, but if I had to narrow it down to three things that I found most interesting, I believe I would say that I was most fascinated when I had read about loneliness, and the myth concerning having children for an increase in marital satisfaction.
As a child, I was very shy in school and I did my best to stay out of everyone’s way. Granted, Praise the Lord that I had a wonderful family and church to lean on, because if I hadn’t, I …show more content…
When asked the question, Does having children increase marital satisfaction, the chapter answered for two sides of the spectrum. One side answered yes for couples that have a good relationship and coping skills, while the other side answered no for couples that have a troubled relationship and poor coping skills. I completely agree with this because I personally see it played out between two families in my church. One family has two children, is constantly arguing, and they started their family shortly after the honeymoon. While the other family has five children, seems happily organized, and didn’t start their family until five years following their marriage. This is ironic to me because the family that has it the worst compared to the happy family has less kids, which goes to show that they clearly need some work on their relationship/communication with each other. This has made realize that I need to be very careful once I get married. I am going to work on solidifying my relationship with my spouse to the point where we are communicating appropriately and are always putting each other first. I believe once I do this, then it will be much more smoother once we start having children. Of course, I also believe that this is what the Lord wants for my future family, which is the very best that it can be. I must try my best to love my children and
As a child, I was very shy in school and I did my best to stay out of everyone’s way. Granted, Praise the Lord that I had a wonderful family and church to lean on, because if I hadn’t, I …show more content…
When asked the question, Does having children increase marital satisfaction, the chapter answered for two sides of the spectrum. One side answered yes for couples that have a good relationship and coping skills, while the other side answered no for couples that have a troubled relationship and poor coping skills. I completely agree with this because I personally see it played out between two families in my church. One family has two children, is constantly arguing, and they started their family shortly after the honeymoon. While the other family has five children, seems happily organized, and didn’t start their family until five years following their marriage. This is ironic to me because the family that has it the worst compared to the happy family has less kids, which goes to show that they clearly need some work on their relationship/communication with each other. This has made realize that I need to be very careful once I get married. I am going to work on solidifying my relationship with my spouse to the point where we are communicating appropriately and are always putting each other first. I believe once I do this, then it will be much more smoother once we start having children. Of course, I also believe that this is what the Lord wants for my future family, which is the very best that it can be. I must try my best to love my children and