Analysis Of Leslie Bell's 'Hard To Get'
For Jayanthi she was thrilled by rebelling against her culture and the way her parents wanted her to act. She toyed with men just as they once toyed with her emotions. For Alicia she advanced in society by learning from others’ mistakes. She knew how to keep herself out of trouble and even poverty because of what she saw in her neighborhood and how those around her suffered academically as well as socially. With advantages come disadvantages. Jayanthi was essentially taken advantage of for sex by multiple men in the same night. This situation caused her to feel disgusted and powerless. She had to immediately change the way she looked at men. She became the emotionless “player.” For Alicia became accustomed to possessing traits that those around her didn’t possess. With these traits she eventually fell right back into the hole that her surroundings dug themselves in; she caught two STDs with her first two partners. It was an extreme case of irony. Clement Stone once said, “to every disadvantage there is a corresponding advantage.” In conclusion in Leslie Bell’s excerpt Hard to Get: Twenty- Something Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom touches upon the contradicting paths women in modern society face when it comes to finding fulfillment due to “confusing messages” sent by their family, friends, and mass media. Social messages as well as personal agency also come into play when women try to determine their identities. With so many contradicting ideas about the way women should act, it’s extremely hard for many to find a happy