Essay On Invisible Chains

Invisible chains by Lisa Aronson Fontes, explains the heartache between the abuser and the victim. The book has three different sections, these sections are where the man is abusing the woman, same sex couples and when a woman is the abuser. Coercive control is degrading, isolation, micromanaging, manipulating, stalking, physical and emotional abuse, whether it be threatening or actually committing through with the violence. This type of control is not always seen or noticeable to other people, but behind closed doors the abuser could be isolating the victim, going through their belongings or ignoring them. Ignoring someone is a normal relationship is healthy, however in an abusive relationship this could potentially be harmful. The abuser is thinking of ways to hurt the victim, or could be built up rage to attack. When the woman knows what is going to happen, she can prepare herself, but when he hides his emotions he can strike at any time. In this review I will go over the psychological terminology to explain the way people think when they are being abused.
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This type of control is the worst because it is manipulating, cruel and sometimes it goes unnoticed. I believe this book separates the fine line between control and the right to be controlled. Just because a person does not realize they are being controlled does not mean they should get help, after reading this book I came to see that I have known people who could benefit from this book and it should not be taken lightly. This book represents both sides of how and why a person becomes an abuser and how to get away from an abuser if you are a victim. The victim needs to remember it is never their fault, however, they can do things to fix the way they feel or look at