Góða Nótt Elskan: Goodnight, Darling The particularity of someone who matters enough to grieve over is worth acknowledging. “The integrity with which we remember [them]…” contributes to self-knowledge and a more comprehensively shaped worldview, through the utilization of meaning derived within this acknowledgement (Campbell, Koggel,& Jacobsen, 2014, p.45). In fact, it is because of meaning that one may devoid death of its assumed unfamiliar, yet strikingly shameful, damage. Grief is one of the most human experiences we encounter. Miriam Greenspan encourages grief in its own way, not as a pathology, moving across a nonlinear process of shattering, expansion and surrender so that gratitude may be achieved (Greenspan, 2003, p.101).
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I recall receiving it for my high-school graduation. I was opening cards sitting on the floor of my parents’ home, my mom’s friend co-reading over my shoulder. It was my mom’s friend who prompted me to keep the letter. She mentioned that it was, “The kind of thing you hold onto.” It is quite special too, the way this last letter lends itself to accurately broadcasting just the kind of lady my Amma was. Remarkably straight, legible cursive writing. Tactful, brief, yet humbly-touching words. A single piece of scotch tape fastening the “Shooting Star Casino & Hotel” paper, delicately ripped off of an obviously much bigger pad of paper, to a thoughtfully chosen card. The letter is now on display in my home, accompanied with a photo of myself and my Amma. It forever serves as a reminder of the woman I lost on July 22, 2011. Losing my Amma possess significance in that she was someone who I encountered both intimately and deeply. As loss, especially in the form of death, is impossible to wholly understand losing my Amma challenged “…the fundamental conditions that sustain [my] actual lived experience, undercutting [my] broad sense of meaning and coherence” (Neimeyer, Burke, Mackay & Van-Dyke, 2010, p.74). More simply put, my personal integrity and identity were shaken, penetrating the core of my being with fears, questions, guilt, and …show more content…
Her three children did not exactly pull closer to each other. In fact, still today there exists strain in the relations of my mother to her siblings, as well as in the relations of her siblings to extended family. Unfortunately my perception of the situation is scattered with bits-and-pieces of facts. Never having been excessively close with my aunt nor my uncle I have never been able to understand their reclusive nature. Outside of the unspoken implications this situation has on me I was also able to watch my mother grieve deeply, my brother grieve differently, and my father attempt to offer support questionably. Seeing this has allowed me to have greater insight into my family members. It has allowed me to facilitate better relations knowing that my brother finds it impossible to see people when they are sick, for he chooses to remember them as their true-selves. My grief is my own; the death of Amma belonged to us all though, and relationally we came to understand that as best we all
Identification …show more content…
I recall receiving it for my high-school graduation. I was opening cards sitting on the floor of my parents’ home, my mom’s friend co-reading over my shoulder. It was my mom’s friend who prompted me to keep the letter. She mentioned that it was, “The kind of thing you hold onto.” It is quite special too, the way this last letter lends itself to accurately broadcasting just the kind of lady my Amma was. Remarkably straight, legible cursive writing. Tactful, brief, yet humbly-touching words. A single piece of scotch tape fastening the “Shooting Star Casino & Hotel” paper, delicately ripped off of an obviously much bigger pad of paper, to a thoughtfully chosen card. The letter is now on display in my home, accompanied with a photo of myself and my Amma. It forever serves as a reminder of the woman I lost on July 22, 2011. Losing my Amma possess significance in that she was someone who I encountered both intimately and deeply. As loss, especially in the form of death, is impossible to wholly understand losing my Amma challenged “…the fundamental conditions that sustain [my] actual lived experience, undercutting [my] broad sense of meaning and coherence” (Neimeyer, Burke, Mackay & Van-Dyke, 2010, p.74). More simply put, my personal integrity and identity were shaken, penetrating the core of my being with fears, questions, guilt, and …show more content…
Her three children did not exactly pull closer to each other. In fact, still today there exists strain in the relations of my mother to her siblings, as well as in the relations of her siblings to extended family. Unfortunately my perception of the situation is scattered with bits-and-pieces of facts. Never having been excessively close with my aunt nor my uncle I have never been able to understand their reclusive nature. Outside of the unspoken implications this situation has on me I was also able to watch my mother grieve deeply, my brother grieve differently, and my father attempt to offer support questionably. Seeing this has allowed me to have greater insight into my family members. It has allowed me to facilitate better relations knowing that my brother finds it impossible to see people when they are sick, for he chooses to remember them as their true-selves. My grief is my own; the death of Amma belonged to us all though, and relationally we came to understand that as best we all