Relationships are never simple, no matter how perfect or compatible two people might be. There is always a give and take, a compromise even, nevertheless when it gets to the point of wanting to change a person that is when a line has been crossed eventually, it can be degrading. Warsen Shire’s “For Women Who Are ‘Difficult’ To Love,” illustrates how there are relationships that women feel that need to modify or mold themselves in a way to appease their partner in what they perceive as to be the “ideal woman.”
In the first two lines, Shire writes, “you are a horse running alone, and he tries to tame you.” An accepted ideal is that women are animals that act untamed and wild, for that justification, it is up to a man to control them ultimately …show more content…
A part of her abides it and concedes to everything that he’s requesting of her. Eventually, she tries to fit into that proper mold that he desires, “closed your mouth more tried to be softer, prettier less volatile, less awake,” to appease him. The last word in that sentence is the most shocking, the woman’s asleep, no longer speaking up for herself and what she wants and needs. She unhappily silenced her own voice and made an effort to not be so combative to the point where she no longer is living her life by what she wants but rather what he expects her to be. The woman became the animal and the object that he broke her down to in the first lines of the poem, she became nothing but a prize that he conquered over her stubbornness and resilience. The woman embraced the penitential nature that he set aside for her, all the while surrendering her freedom and the fire that grew within
In the first two lines, Shire writes, “you are a horse running alone, and he tries to tame you.” An accepted ideal is that women are animals that act untamed and wild, for that justification, it is up to a man to control them ultimately …show more content…
A part of her abides it and concedes to everything that he’s requesting of her. Eventually, she tries to fit into that proper mold that he desires, “closed your mouth more tried to be softer, prettier less volatile, less awake,” to appease him. The last word in that sentence is the most shocking, the woman’s asleep, no longer speaking up for herself and what she wants and needs. She unhappily silenced her own voice and made an effort to not be so combative to the point where she no longer is living her life by what she wants but rather what he expects her to be. The woman became the animal and the object that he broke her down to in the first lines of the poem, she became nothing but a prize that he conquered over her stubbornness and resilience. The woman embraced the penitential nature that he set aside for her, all the while surrendering her freedom and the fire that grew within