Real Men Wear Any Color Of The Rainbow
When we think of men crying we usually pair it with certain events like the death of a family member or the day their children are born. Soft males are men who show emotion and are sensitive people. Being themselves emphasizes a man is brave enough to show he has a heart. People believe real men should never cry but in reality all humans show emotions at some breaking point; therefore, men have every right to be soft males. David Buchbinder, in his book Studying Men and Masculinities, goes into the crisis men are forced to live through because of the men living around them.While some in our patriarchal society would say that soft males are a negative thing, and that they portray feminine behavior, this …show more content…
What we don't think about is the sacrifice then men make to do those gestures; therefore, in reality that brings down the expectations of what a real man is to the patriarchal society and embraces that any man can become “soft” for a woman. As women we appreciate those small gestures and see them differently and give them recognition for it. We see them as cute we find it attractive and simply a sense of future happiness in a relationship. I believe that might also be a reason for men to have the sense that it's okay to behave this way without realizing what his actions are portraying. Friendships usually are formed by people who have things in common so when it comes to relationships we easily expect more from a partner and expect them to hold everything a friendship does and more. Society has placed boundaries for men but women expect beyond those existing boundaries and men are willing to go beyond them for that same reason. For example the women who are receiving tampons and chocolates reaction might be delightful, but the person who rings up the males buying tampons and chocolates might judge them otherwise if it happens to be a man. So we may ask why is it that men do these things if they know they will be judged? According to Umberson et al, in the article The Effect of Social Relationships on Psychological Well-Being: Are Men and Women Really So Different?, it's stated that men view women as trustworthy and are more likely to share topics of private matter. In essence men are more likely to gain confidence and feel it's okay to be “soft” for the sake of their relationship “[as] 49% of men identify their spouse as their primary confidant”(844). So to be quite frankly every man has a little soft in them, regardless of the way and with whom they choose to express it. Weather or not it's labeled as “feminine behavior” by men themselves, it
When we think of men crying we usually pair it with certain events like the death of a family member or the day their children are born. Soft males are men who show emotion and are sensitive people. Being themselves emphasizes a man is brave enough to show he has a heart. People believe real men should never cry but in reality all humans show emotions at some breaking point; therefore, men have every right to be soft males. David Buchbinder, in his book Studying Men and Masculinities, goes into the crisis men are forced to live through because of the men living around them.While some in our patriarchal society would say that soft males are a negative thing, and that they portray feminine behavior, this …show more content…
What we don't think about is the sacrifice then men make to do those gestures; therefore, in reality that brings down the expectations of what a real man is to the patriarchal society and embraces that any man can become “soft” for a woman. As women we appreciate those small gestures and see them differently and give them recognition for it. We see them as cute we find it attractive and simply a sense of future happiness in a relationship. I believe that might also be a reason for men to have the sense that it's okay to behave this way without realizing what his actions are portraying. Friendships usually are formed by people who have things in common so when it comes to relationships we easily expect more from a partner and expect them to hold everything a friendship does and more. Society has placed boundaries for men but women expect beyond those existing boundaries and men are willing to go beyond them for that same reason. For example the women who are receiving tampons and chocolates reaction might be delightful, but the person who rings up the males buying tampons and chocolates might judge them otherwise if it happens to be a man. So we may ask why is it that men do these things if they know they will be judged? According to Umberson et al, in the article The Effect of Social Relationships on Psychological Well-Being: Are Men and Women Really So Different?, it's stated that men view women as trustworthy and are more likely to share topics of private matter. In essence men are more likely to gain confidence and feel it's okay to be “soft” for the sake of their relationship “[as] 49% of men identify their spouse as their primary confidant”(844). So to be quite frankly every man has a little soft in them, regardless of the way and with whom they choose to express it. Weather or not it's labeled as “feminine behavior” by men themselves, it