Analysis Of Anne Roiphe's Why Marriages Fail

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In her essay, “Why Marriages Fail,” that appeared in Parents Magazine, Anne Roiphe discusses the topic of divorce. Roiphe begins the essay with statistics of failed marriages and questions the uptick in the number of divorces. She goes on to explain how psychological issues from childhood have an impact on the decision of divorce. Roiphe discuss the multiple outside pressures that push couples to the breaking point. Although the outside pressures that come with a marriage have a significant impacts on divorce, inner issues within the relationship doom marriages. Humans are creatures of habit and tend to repeat behaviors from the past. This repetitive nature takes place in romantic relationships as well. Roiphe states, “The human way is to …show more content…
The unhappiness and stress of an unhealthy relationship begins to wear on the mind. Crosby states, “[P]reserve their identity, to ward off further exploitation, emotional dependency, loss of self-esteem, and dehumanization” (Crosby, 1980, p. 57). These people wish to stay who they are and not lose themselves in the marriage. For example this could be escaping a marriage where one of the partners is constantly chastising the other. This repeated action would impact a person’s self-esteem and emotional state. On the other hand, a continual routine where there is no emotion or intimacy with the partner can lead to someone is losing the loving, trusting feelings that occurred at the start of the relationship. Also, someone may be so focused on keeping a marriage afloat that he or she loses sight of who he or she is as an individual. It is possible to lose one’s identity while trying to preserve a marriage that is no longer viable. Crosby goes on to say, “[I]t is a matter of self-affirmation and self-assertion equal to no other act to adult life” (Crosby, 1980, p. 57). In other words, for some to save their mental state of mind, they need to escape. The mental side extends even further, Crosby argues, “[T]he magnitude of the raging internal conflict is such that they are literally fighting for their lives” (Crosby, 1980, p. 57). The struggle between the spouses that has been going on …show more content…
The learned behaviors and psychological issues can have an impact on the internal climate. The outside pressures, even though not the main cause of divorce, are all related to the internal climate issues and have an impact based on each individual 's

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