Chapter 14: Blame Game
“Make a list of people who ruined your life or did you wrong.”
Was it your parents? Your teachers? Your best friend? Your third cousin? Your brother? Put it down on a list. If that does not satisfy you. Write a detailed story about everyone, as to how you were wronged in exact detail. There is no limitation of pages. Put it all down right now. I did a similar exercise as part of landmark forum, Mumbai. Let me tell you how it works.
Once your entire story is on paper read it aloud to a close confidant or a friend you trust. Express all the emotion hate, anxiety, use your choicest words do whatever you need to do to express how you exactly felt or feel. Read it aloud. Once this is done. Ask them how they felt after hearing your story. No solutions are required. Whatever they say is ok. Just take it all in. Find another of your emphatic friend read out your story again. Do it again for a third time if you feel like it with a friend or a total stranger your choice.
If after three reads you do not still feel you have vented enough. Call up that person if it is …show more content…
They get clarity right at the story righting stage. They realise how silly the story sounds which was holding them back for so long. 30% of people right at the first recital of their blame story decide they have wasted enough time by blaming someone and letting them inhibit there true potential. 30% of the participants in this exercise after the second recital or after the call to their perpetrator never ever go back. They do not let the blame story ever surface or matter to them ever again. The reset 10% who follow through the entire exercise and are still unable to get over there blame story need a psychiatrist or clinical help. Letting bygones be bygones and moving on is a better alternative to losing one’s mind any day. Stop obsessing start focusing on another positive aspect of your
“Make a list of people who ruined your life or did you wrong.”
Was it your parents? Your teachers? Your best friend? Your third cousin? Your brother? Put it down on a list. If that does not satisfy you. Write a detailed story about everyone, as to how you were wronged in exact detail. There is no limitation of pages. Put it all down right now. I did a similar exercise as part of landmark forum, Mumbai. Let me tell you how it works.
Once your entire story is on paper read it aloud to a close confidant or a friend you trust. Express all the emotion hate, anxiety, use your choicest words do whatever you need to do to express how you exactly felt or feel. Read it aloud. Once this is done. Ask them how they felt after hearing your story. No solutions are required. Whatever they say is ok. Just take it all in. Find another of your emphatic friend read out your story again. Do it again for a third time if you feel like it with a friend or a total stranger your choice.
If after three reads you do not still feel you have vented enough. Call up that person if it is …show more content…
They get clarity right at the story righting stage. They realise how silly the story sounds which was holding them back for so long. 30% of people right at the first recital of their blame story decide they have wasted enough time by blaming someone and letting them inhibit there true potential. 30% of the participants in this exercise after the second recital or after the call to their perpetrator never ever go back. They do not let the blame story ever surface or matter to them ever again. The reset 10% who follow through the entire exercise and are still unable to get over there blame story need a psychiatrist or clinical help. Letting bygones be bygones and moving on is a better alternative to losing one’s mind any day. Stop obsessing start focusing on another positive aspect of your