Explanation: This quote is from “How to Tell a True War Story.” O’Brien is describing a woman’s response to his writing- how she doesn’t like war stories, but that she liked his. He has just talked about the death of Curt Lemon, the killing of the buffalo and the letter from Rat Kiley to Curt Lemon’s sister.
He is commenting on his own book here, explaining that maybe it is less about war and more about love, more about the characters.
This is very much the opposite of Slaughterhouse Five, where Vonnegut writes more about ideas and less about characters. Tim O’Brien considers writing this book an act of love. These men were his friends and he is sad that