Analysis Of Non-Voluntary Interdependence

In the article “Remaining in an Abusive Relationship: An Investment Model Analysis of Non-Voluntary Dependence” by Caryl E. Rusbult and John M. Martz, it explained a great deal of very deep, informative, and understanding facts about being in an abusive relationship. The article focused on interdependence theory for weighing all the pros and cons for collaborating with each person’s expectations for building a strong and close relationship with one another. It stated three different hypotheses; (1) if there was a high level of commitment then there was limited alternatives, greater investments, and greater or lesser displeasure, (2) if they stay or leave behavior is associated with the commitment level, then they are more likely to stay in …show more content…
The interdependence theory is a great theory that was chosen to be focused on in this article. I can relate to the ideas that were formed around this one theory. Ultimately women do pay close attention to all three of the independent variables although one variable may stick out more than the others depending on the person. There are countless factors on both the men and the women in an abusive relationship. The men may have had a past experience that’s made them to be abusive. As in my story, my ex-boyfriend was neglected a lot as a child. So he definitely builds his relationships off of his past. The women probably want to feel wanted and feel that they may not find anyone more suitable to fulfill their needs and considering the amount of investment they have in that abusive relationship. As in my story, I stayed for 4 years for multiple reasons. (1) The fulfillment of all my needs, (2) feeling as if I would not be able to find anyone better being this was my first true love and I felt it was real, (3) the fear of leaving him, may lead to a careless outcome, (4) the length of our relationship and knowing him since 9th grade high school (what we call high school sweethearts), and (5) we created a beautiful baby girl who is 7 months old. So all of those factors I have just listed I would say made me stay with him until I had my baby girl and just had enough and looked at the bigger picture of knowing we deserve better. Women try to balance staying in an abusive relationship and if they should leave. We may view the abusive part as being not so bad as the leaving part. That’s why we chose to stay, also. The consequences of leaving could lead to the deaths of women and their children so women stay to protect their lives. And women just look at the abusive part as something they rather handle than handling the leaving