One of my all-time favorite songs is Real Love by Mary J. Blige. In it she details her quest for love, and describes the real love she has been searching for. I completely understand how she felt; as I search for real love. Through the process, I learned some valuable lessons; and gained wisdom on this quest. I want to use this post to share some things that I learned on this journey.
Be what you are searching for!
I always tell my friends, “You have to be a whole person before anyone can love you.” I know people who want to be in love so bad that they rush the process. They are not complete individuals and they haven’t discovered their true selves. They are messy and jacked up! In the bible it says, “Love is patient, love is kind” you need to master these before you get into a relationship. If you are frustrated and miserable, you can’t expect love that will be patient, and love that will be kind. The only love you receive is love that will be frustrated and miserable. This is why I say be what you are searching for. If you want love that is patient; learn some …show more content…
You go on date after date from: online dating, to blind dating, and dating out of your comfort zone. You still have those people who find it hard to believe that you are single. It’s hard to be open to finding the possibilities of love; when love hasn’t been kind to you. You get the scrubs, pigeons, and everything in between. It can be very easy to lose hope. Just remember, it will be worth the wait. I learned a long time ago that there are 7 billion people on this earth. So in other words, there are plenty of fish in the sea. There is someone for everyone. Just because it seems like you are going through hell trying to find love. There is someone out there for you. When you find that person: every tear, heartbreak, and let down will all be worth it. Continue to date, continue to make your heart free, and continue to take chances – you never know what you may