Unit 7: “All or Nothing Marriage”
I think that when Finkel (“All or Nothing Marriage”) describes his opinion that marriages today are better than the ones in the past, he’s essentially saying that modern day marriages are the best in the means that the marriages with the strongest bonds and greatest satisfaction, etc today compared to what used to be considered the ‘most excellent’ and best marriages back in the times of yore have gotten stronger and even better. The standard of the ‘best’ marriages has been raised since then. On the other hand, he believes that the current marriages of today are also worse than the ones back then because the marriages today in general are very fragile compared to the average of marriages in the past centuries. The average …show more content…
Marriages long ago had a lower divorce rate and the people were more content with each other unlike in our present day. Nowadays couples, for instance, may only last about 1 year. In this case the strength of the average marriage has been lowered since the past.
How have our expectations of marriage changed over time?
Our expectation of marriage has changed over time because in our day and age, people expect too much from marriage and they don't focus more on the relationship itself. It all depends on what you expected vs. what you received. Expectations today are much higher compared to 50+ years ago. We're showered with movies, series, advertisements, and magazines, littered with "perfect" couples, relationships and such. Reality can hardly catch up to that in countless cases and people end up disappointed when they don't get what's advertised. I can dare to say that most people will agree they'd rather be alone than in an unwanted and abusive marriage. What can be done? How about encouraging people to really think about whether they're ready or of the marriage-mindset at all in the first place? This concept/assumption of marriage at all costs is a flaw
I think that when Finkel (“All or Nothing Marriage”) describes his opinion that marriages today are better than the ones in the past, he’s essentially saying that modern day marriages are the best in the means that the marriages with the strongest bonds and greatest satisfaction, etc today compared to what used to be considered the ‘most excellent’ and best marriages back in the times of yore have gotten stronger and even better. The standard of the ‘best’ marriages has been raised since then. On the other hand, he believes that the current marriages of today are also worse than the ones back then because the marriages today in general are very fragile compared to the average of marriages in the past centuries. The average …show more content…
Marriages long ago had a lower divorce rate and the people were more content with each other unlike in our present day. Nowadays couples, for instance, may only last about 1 year. In this case the strength of the average marriage has been lowered since the past.
How have our expectations of marriage changed over time?
Our expectation of marriage has changed over time because in our day and age, people expect too much from marriage and they don't focus more on the relationship itself. It all depends on what you expected vs. what you received. Expectations today are much higher compared to 50+ years ago. We're showered with movies, series, advertisements, and magazines, littered with "perfect" couples, relationships and such. Reality can hardly catch up to that in countless cases and people end up disappointed when they don't get what's advertised. I can dare to say that most people will agree they'd rather be alone than in an unwanted and abusive marriage. What can be done? How about encouraging people to really think about whether they're ready or of the marriage-mindset at all in the first place? This concept/assumption of marriage at all costs is a flaw