Remonine De Beauvoir The Second Sex

Bell Hooks, Lynn M. Phillips, and Simone De Beauvoir talked about what is good and what is bad love. Love and abuse or sexual violence are often misunderstood by people for various reasons. In this paper, I will argue that it cannot be called love if there are any vicious purpose behinds one’s will that cause anyone harm. In other words, love should not include any unpleasant and hurtful elements, that is the opposite of “recognition, respect, care, affection, trust, commitment, honest, and open communication” (Hooks, p.5).
Bell Hooks in “All About Love” gives the love definition, that love is both an action and an intention to enlarge and strengthen one’s self in order to support and promote one’s own or others’ spiritual growth (Hooks, p.4). She …show more content…
The women in idolatrous love would not have her own identity, but she is identified by her loved one; she would only be and happy to be part of her lover, and she would lose herself in his world (Beauvoir, p.693). This means that in idolatrous love, women would see her man as the whole world, and even her god. A woman would do this because of her “bad faith” in idolatrous love, which is according to Beauvoir, denying her own existential freedom, reducing her moral responsibility, and relying on her man completely (Beauvoir, p.683). Without him, she would not be complete and alive, so she would devote herself into him in order to have his voice, value and world. Authentic love, in the contrast, both parties have freedom and respect for each other; an authentic love would enrich one’s value and world, and not limits it, which is called “reciprocal recognition” (Beauvoir, p.706). She states that women should love in her strength and affirm herself in love, and love should be a source of life for both women and men, not danger (Beauvoir, p.708). This is her hope and suggestion of what healthy and encouraging love should