When most people think of marriage, they do not think of their parents choosing their future spouse. Unlike arranged marriages, the marriages Western society often think of are those where love is the deciding factor, but in arranged marriages love is not important. Arranged marriages may not be common in Western cultures, but in some areas, they are the “norm”. Although it may not affect society directly, it is an important thing to have an understanding of. After abundant research, I have gained an understanding on the benefits and challenges of an arranged marriage, as well as the steps leading up to the marriage. There are many positives and negatives of arranged marriage. Before understanding the benefits and challenges, it is important
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In some, the couples may find that being assigned a spouse can help with compatibility, but in other marriages it is the complete opposite. Some disadvantages of arranged marriages include lack of compatibility, limited freedom, and absence of love. The first disadvantage of arranged marriages is the lack of compatibility. Although some find that having very similar backgrounds as their own is a comfort, others find it to be a large drawback. There are occasions where cultures, religions, and socioeconomic backgrounds may correspond, but personalities clash. According to ConnectUS, their similar backgrounds do not assure love toward one another, making the marriage miserable for not only them, but also any children that they may have. The second setback of arranged marriages is the feeling of limited freedom in the marriage. Unable to choose their spouse, the bride or groom may feel powerless and hopeless. It tends to produce a feeling of lack of power which can lead to anxiety and/or depression. Another disadvantage of arranged marriage is lack of love. Parents often tell their child, “Decide with your head and not with your heart”. These children are taught to believe that love will come after the act of marriage. In specific cultures, it is more important to consider the social and economic viability rather than love. While all of these disadvantages put quite a strain on not only the bride and groom, but the extended family as well, dowry crimes are one of the biggest disadvantages in arranged marriages, especially in
In some, the couples may find that being assigned a spouse can help with compatibility, but in other marriages it is the complete opposite. Some disadvantages of arranged marriages include lack of compatibility, limited freedom, and absence of love. The first disadvantage of arranged marriages is the lack of compatibility. Although some find that having very similar backgrounds as their own is a comfort, others find it to be a large drawback. There are occasions where cultures, religions, and socioeconomic backgrounds may correspond, but personalities clash. According to ConnectUS, their similar backgrounds do not assure love toward one another, making the marriage miserable for not only them, but also any children that they may have. The second setback of arranged marriages is the feeling of limited freedom in the marriage. Unable to choose their spouse, the bride or groom may feel powerless and hopeless. It tends to produce a feeling of lack of power which can lead to anxiety and/or depression. Another disadvantage of arranged marriage is lack of love. Parents often tell their child, “Decide with your head and not with your heart”. These children are taught to believe that love will come after the act of marriage. In specific cultures, it is more important to consider the social and economic viability rather than love. While all of these disadvantages put quite a strain on not only the bride and groom, but the extended family as well, dowry crimes are one of the biggest disadvantages in arranged marriages, especially in