The heartbreaking moment of a phone call or face to face conversation that brings tears to the eyes faster than a jet plane. The heartbreaking moment when we hear about a tragic loss of peer, teammate, or even a family member that makes us become speechless with an abundance of emotions. According to McDowell (2016), “Death is never easy. And the death of a young person is especially heartbreaking and traumatic.” Common effects of a tragedy teens experience include parents becoming more authoritative, fear of death, and grieving. What you may not know; however, is that an opposite effect can come from what people perceived as a horrible matter. Tragic loss can motivate, prepare, and guide teens for the future through effective parenting,
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Adaptive grief is different from person to person and for this reason, it can’t be taught. We learn our grieving process through a tragic loss; moreover, once a person learns adaptive grief it is easier to obtain it for the next grieving period you could experience (Fernandez-Alcantara, 2017). This support shows that adaptive grief is important to learn, especially since people remember their process of grieving. With the remembrance of our adaptive grief, it can possibly make each loss easier, particularly when we are older and have more trouble dealing with loss or when the loss gets to a closer relationship to you. Mielke (2018) also says that children learn more lessons or the adaptive grief process better if parents share their emotions or experiences with their young ones. It is important for children to know about death and be aware of tragic loss so it is less of a surprise to them. It is also important because children do not know how to mourn or grieve like an adult does, so if no one teaches them or if they don’t have hands-on experience with a loss; children are not prepared for the future (Teaching Parents How to Address Death with Their Kids, 2015). All of this is helpful in a teen’s future because they can call upon their adaptive grief whenever needed. The learning of adaptive grief in teen years allows preparation for the
Adaptive grief is different from person to person and for this reason, it can’t be taught. We learn our grieving process through a tragic loss; moreover, once a person learns adaptive grief it is easier to obtain it for the next grieving period you could experience (Fernandez-Alcantara, 2017). This support shows that adaptive grief is important to learn, especially since people remember their process of grieving. With the remembrance of our adaptive grief, it can possibly make each loss easier, particularly when we are older and have more trouble dealing with loss or when the loss gets to a closer relationship to you. Mielke (2018) also says that children learn more lessons or the adaptive grief process better if parents share their emotions or experiences with their young ones. It is important for children to know about death and be aware of tragic loss so it is less of a surprise to them. It is also important because children do not know how to mourn or grieve like an adult does, so if no one teaches them or if they don’t have hands-on experience with a loss; children are not prepared for the future (Teaching Parents How to Address Death with Their Kids, 2015). All of this is helpful in a teen’s future because they can call upon their adaptive grief whenever needed. The learning of adaptive grief in teen years allows preparation for the