My Absent Father

Often we hear of the impact that it has for a girl to have the active presence of her father in her life. While I take nothing away from the value of that experience, I can not express vehemently enough, how immeasurably important it is for her to have the express imprint of her mother’s love. This is a crucial element that influences her development and structures her sense of worth.

Though my mother is alive and very well, for most of my life, she has deliberately chosen to be emotionally, and largely, physically, absent. I imagine her reasons are varied and appropriate from her standpoint. Still, the effects of knowing this was intentional on her part have always, and continue, to weigh painfully and negatively on my psyche.

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Beyond attempting to understand the range of results within our individual existences, I am seeking answers, resolutions and peace, so that my beloved daughters do not experience a life less than deserving of their beauty and talents in the earthly realm. We did not have our father, but our mother remained, as glue and strength for my sisters, while I became, as I had always been with her, a source of scorn. She provided continuity and a harbor for them when their ships threatened to hit the shallows, but I remained an island in a …show more content…
Could it be that these behaviors exist because we found ourselves in a world, increasingly so, where we become more and more self-absorbed? In this, we are blind to the devastation that we are creating in the wake of our vanity, pride and self-gratification. We will awaken to find that we only have ourselves to blame for the loss of integrity, consciences and depth of love in the generations to follow, as they grapple with feelings of inadequacy, visited upon them from those responsible for their full