Abusive Relationships:
When we hear people talking about someone they know that is in abusive relationship, we automatically say ‘that will never happen to me’. We make assumptions really quick without actually thinking about it. How do we know we will never experience something like that?. We don’t know, we can be the either the abused or the abuser without realizing it. We might not notice it because we have always pictured abuse as a physical thing and ignore the fact that there is many more ways to abuse of someone. The first we need to know is what is abuse and in what ways can a person be abused.
Abuse is anything you do to someone else in order to hurt them intentionally. The four most common types of abuse are: physical, verbal, …show more content…
You can ask the people you most trust, what they see when you and your partner are together. Rafenstein says that Dr. Matiatos also suggests that you ask yourself a series of questions like: “does your partner... *ignore you?, *disrespect you?, *ridicule or insult you?, *humiliate you privately or in public?, *give you a hard time about socializing with your friends or family?, *threatened to leave, or threatened to throw you out?, *ever hit or push you, even accidentally?, *manipulate you with lies and conditions?, *destroy furniture, punch holes in walls, break things?” (2-3). By asking yourself questions like this you are just in time to leave without being to hurt. Another thing Dr. Matiatos recommends doing, in “Recognizing an ABUSIVE Relationship” by Rafenstein, is recognizing if any of the following applies to you: “you express your opinions less and less frequently. . . you feel emotionally unsafe. . . you feel like it’s not OK to talk to others about your relationship. . . you doubt your abilities. . . you are becoming increasingly depressed. . . your have been or are afraid of your partner. . . your partner has physically hurt you, even just once” (4). If you can relate to most of them, you are considered to be in a critical point but that does not mean you can’t get out of that
When we hear people talking about someone they know that is in abusive relationship, we automatically say ‘that will never happen to me’. We make assumptions really quick without actually thinking about it. How do we know we will never experience something like that?. We don’t know, we can be the either the abused or the abuser without realizing it. We might not notice it because we have always pictured abuse as a physical thing and ignore the fact that there is many more ways to abuse of someone. The first we need to know is what is abuse and in what ways can a person be abused.
Abuse is anything you do to someone else in order to hurt them intentionally. The four most common types of abuse are: physical, verbal, …show more content…
You can ask the people you most trust, what they see when you and your partner are together. Rafenstein says that Dr. Matiatos also suggests that you ask yourself a series of questions like: “does your partner... *ignore you?, *disrespect you?, *ridicule or insult you?, *humiliate you privately or in public?, *give you a hard time about socializing with your friends or family?, *threatened to leave, or threatened to throw you out?, *ever hit or push you, even accidentally?, *manipulate you with lies and conditions?, *destroy furniture, punch holes in walls, break things?” (2-3). By asking yourself questions like this you are just in time to leave without being to hurt. Another thing Dr. Matiatos recommends doing, in “Recognizing an ABUSIVE Relationship” by Rafenstein, is recognizing if any of the following applies to you: “you express your opinions less and less frequently. . . you feel emotionally unsafe. . . you feel like it’s not OK to talk to others about your relationship. . . you doubt your abilities. . . you are becoming increasingly depressed. . . your have been or are afraid of your partner. . . your partner has physically hurt you, even just once” (4). If you can relate to most of them, you are considered to be in a critical point but that does not mean you can’t get out of that