with the solution of an abusive relationship the author argues in her other book The Verbally Abusive Man--Can He Change, A Woman’s Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go that change is essential ( 221). She gives emotional support for those too who are in a destructive partner-relationship by providing her suggestions on how to find a suitable solution. Most abusive men (could be woman as well), as she argues have created kind and admirable personas and have an "affable demeanor" therefore it is extremely hard to leave them (221). They fool everybody in their near surrounding, but behind the curtains they act differently and apply strong performative forces (221).
The core of the problem, as the author phrases, is that they define the victim who starts to believe what was said about her and starts to feel ashamed. By defining somebody’s self and inner world means the deprivation of his or her personal freedom (221-223). Victims, who live in chaos, repetitive anger outbursts, or who are tortured (psychologically speaking) with silence treatment filled with rejection and the denial of kindness and hostility that from the outside looks brilliant and happy, suffer from the inside and start to give up hope ( 223). Then they start to believe and identify with the assigned character the abuser …show more content…
Many psychologist are not able to track why a verbally abusive man is behaving like this. This is though not a generalized description of all men, as the author points out because many men have very happy relationships with their partners, regardless their less promising careers (Lynch). Masculine depression and verbal violence as a result of it can be also temporary
The core of the problem, as the author phrases, is that they define the victim who starts to believe what was said about her and starts to feel ashamed. By defining somebody’s self and inner world means the deprivation of his or her personal freedom (221-223). Victims, who live in chaos, repetitive anger outbursts, or who are tortured (psychologically speaking) with silence treatment filled with rejection and the denial of kindness and hostility that from the outside looks brilliant and happy, suffer from the inside and start to give up hope ( 223). Then they start to believe and identify with the assigned character the abuser …show more content…
Many psychologist are not able to track why a verbally abusive man is behaving like this. This is though not a generalized description of all men, as the author points out because many men have very happy relationships with their partners, regardless their less promising careers (Lynch). Masculine depression and verbal violence as a result of it can be also temporary